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Cork. All right, lads, how often do you change your underpants? It's time to talk. I'm listening to you on the radio at this time of the morning since I'm at least two years old.
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They blocked me from trying to get a refund. It's just appalling.
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You would think we'd have water to give away, but apparently stocks and supplies are already extensively reduced. And on that basis, we have a hosepipe coming in and that will be for at least a month. And it comes in at the weekend. Every county starts on Friday. So that would be no more hoses, no more paddling pools being filled with water, no more washing the car with a hose, no more sprinkler systems, nodding because of the prolonged period of exceptionally hot and dry weather.
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So the idea here is they must prioritize those that need it most, which is I suppose to be able to flush the loo. and turn on the tap and have water come out of it, but also businesses, farms, hospitals, vulnerable customers and essential services. So there you have it. One was wondering actually whether or not the weather had anything to do with that fire up in the Glen Park. More on that a little later on this morning, but certainly Cork Fire Brigade is saying no, it was a malicious one. Started intentionally. So more on that, but well done to all of those personnel from the Fire Brigade, who got it under control eventually.
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But we'll come back to that one. You know, it's kind of sad because the BBC reporting this morning that two firefighters died when they were battling a huge blaze near Bordeaux Airport. There was about 100 firefighters there with aircraft in the sky and everything trying to put out that particular brush fire. Then it was spreading to buildings and all sorts of things, impeded flights and everything. But I suppose, you know, you have to be very much aware and cognizant of the important job that people in the fire brigade do. Sadly, in France, loss of life for two members.
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Speaking of people who, and I hope this woman, although we know her name now to be Mary McNamara, makes a full recovery, but she remains in intensive care. This morning, the Red Tops and the Broadsheets tell us a little bit more about what happened as she prayed in church yesterday with the Red Tops saying, stabbed, as she said, the rosary. A kind and dedicated parishioner, intensive care man stabbed her as she prayed in the church. It was the 10 o'clock mass. I told you about it yesterday morning because it was breaking while we were on air.
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So they had the rosary just before the 10 o'clock mass. And this fellow comes down the church and he stops and he just lunged at her with a knife. And she ran and he ran after her. And eventually then he legged it. Arm Gardie weren't long getting to the scene and eventually arrested a man in his 30s and he's due in court this morning. They say he could well have mental health issues. According to the examiner this morning, Cormac O'Keefe says they're examining whether serious mental health issues, long term drug abuse as well, may have played a part in the stabbing of a woman just before the mass.
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They're actually looking at his phone now and they're studying his social media activity, including his Facebook page. And the examiner says this morning his Facebook contains numerous Catholic and Christian posts and images published this year. He's local.
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It's interesting. They say that he's local, born in Ireland, and he lives close to the church. Now, witnesses said that she was praying in the pew.
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And he lunged at her. Mary McNamara was just saying her prayers and stabbed her once in the upper body. Oh, my God. 36 years old, this guy. Known to local Gardaí over the decades in relation to mental health incidents, drug abuse and missing persons searches. So that's quite a lot to be going on with where the Independent this morning say that he was seen incoherently rambling. in the area ahead of the stabbing yesterday. And that's from the Irish Independent.
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Well, the Sun this morning says that he suffered mental health issues and he is the associate of a man who was stabbed to death several years ago, according to the Sun. And the guards are trying to establish the motive of the attacker, whether he even knew Ms. McNamara or not. So there is a court appearance this morning. If there's anything else to report on that regarding that court appearance, I will let you know and keep you across it. We spoke yesterday at Lane. I hope she makes 100% recovery and she physically and psychologically recovers from this.
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Meanwhile, we were talking yesterday on the air about e-scooters and the impending change of law with regards to e-scooters and the age of which they can be sold. And also, indeed, even electric bikes and cyclists. Cyclists will have to have a registration plate if they get their way. Where we'll put it on the bike, I have no idea. But Simon Harris, in fairness, he came out punching yesterday. He says that parents will be hit with fines if their child is caught on an e-scooter wagon. We'll find the parents. He actually said yesterday, start today and stop buying e-scooters for children.
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So the new rules will kind of come in in dribs and drabs across the rest of the year. It'll start with raising the age of e-scooter purchased and used to 18. But the cabinet will sign off on a lot of that with regards to that as we head across the back end of the summer. And then the ownership of the e-scooter will be tracked by the Gardaí. They'll find the parent. They will find the parents and find them. Wouldn't that be great if that kind of policy was in place for all sort of juvenile activity that leads to criminality? Like, for instance, if you found, if it turned out to be, and I'm not saying it was juveniles in the Glen or, you know, other incidents that we hear of, the fellas down in Camden who had a lighter and set the blaze, set off a blaze in there.
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in the grassy areas there. I mean, it's all very well said. Oh, sure, they were young. They were only 14 years old. Yeah, but like, hang on a second. You know, there has to be repercussions for actions, no? So find the parents in a lot more ways than just this one, I would perhaps suggest. Anyway, the papers this morning talk about if your 14-year-old kid, he says, is going on an e-scooter, who gave the child the e-scooter? or as Simon Harris says, who gave him the scooter. I'm sure there are 14-year-old girls as well up on them. And then you talk about people who are out and about wishing just to have a good night.
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Now, this is interesting from the point of view of Anne Murphy's story in The Echo, because the woman involved in this was apparently drinking water. when she collapsed in the pub. She wasn't on vodka and tonics, or she wasn't drinking cocktails or pints or bottled beer or anything. She was drinking water. There's a Cork solicitor called Patrick Horan. Horan, he says that people need to be wary on nights out after the daughter of a friend of his had her drink spiked while she was celebrating an engagement in the city centre.
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She was celebrating the engagement, drinking water, and suddenly collapsed, apparently. And the solicitor, Patrick Horan, knows of this because he's a friend of the family.
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But then you look at the story in a little bit more detail where they say that four other recent cases, he said, have been reported in Cork to, you know, certainly when you say reported, I imagine presented at the A&E, at the CUH. And there are people out there, he says, targeting women and looking for any vulnerability whatsoever. And they're hanging around middle class pubs and targeting women. So this could be by putting a substance into a drink. It could be a powder. It could be a tablet. Or indeed, the original spiking label came actually from injecting people unbeknownst to them.
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So that's the front and inside page of the Echo today. And a lot of these stories, of course, would be making it to the courts if people were caught. And if they got to court, of course, there's chaos in the courts. The criminal courts are... pretty much going to completely shut down now because they're going into summer recess. So they'll probably try and limp along to the summer recess. And all of this has to do with the free legal aid payments. That goes on and on. You know the background to all of this. There's a payment for every solicitor who has somebody on free legal aid where they get 240 euro fee for taking the case and 60 euro fee for every time it goes back into court.
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Jim O'Callaghan wants to introduce one fee, which is 520 euro for the case. And that's it. And, you know, if they're not happy with that, doesn't that mean that there must be an awful lot of reappearances for the same case? Because 540 is a lot more than 240 plus 60 for each appearance. Don't you think maybe I'm doing the maths round, but it would seem to me to be a fairly attractive amount at €520. They spent £41 million last year in free legal aid. I wonder how much of that £41 million was for repeat appearances before the court for the free legal aid defendant.
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But anyway, Jamal Callan's under pressure. I don't know if he's feeling the pressure or whether he'll brazen it out. You know what happens at the end of the day? Everybody gets around a table and they make some kind of a deal where everybody seems to win. And then you heard it in the news this morning. I mean, like, it's all suits now who are the highest paid staff. I mean, I'm not quite sure they ever intended it to be that way, but that's the consequence of the action where you look at the RTE executives now completely dominate the top 10 earners league table.
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Claire Byrne was in there. She was the only broadcaster left, actually, at 280 grand.
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a year before she moved to Newstalk. So now it's all suits. Well, I shouldn't say suits, actually, because of the nine that are left on the list. I think five of them are male and four of them are female. And Kevin Backhurst is up there.
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He's supposed to have 250 grand a year as a cap, but he actually earned 339 and a half grand last year. He'd throw his pension in there and his and his expenses and all sorts of things like that. So the headline in the Echo is Suits Replacing Stars in RTE. That only works, actually, if all of the females in RTE are wearing suits as well in the top 10 list. But then there's another one, which I probably should have mentioned, actually, when I was talking about the court system. There's some information that's been released now with regards to the Medical Bureau of Road Safety with regards to drink driving.
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Now, what's interesting about this is they give some particular examples in the mail this morning where they say there was one particular driver who was arrested six times by Gardie last year on suspicion of driving while intoxicated. Same individual, six times. But they also released the figures of the youngest male driver arrested on suspicion of drink driving. He was 14 years old, this fella. The youngest female driver arrested for drunk driving was 16. And apparently the oldest driver caught under the influence was 95.
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95.
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So a lot of different decades and age groups represented in that list. And there are other numbers of interest this morning. You see all of those ads that do be up on social, people renting out their houses ahead of the Ryder Cup. Well, that's all very well. If you can get 20 or 30 or 40 or 50 grand for the week, good luck to you. But there's a bit of competition in town because in Foynes on the River Shannon, a luxury cruise ship will be docking to accommodate guests during the Ryder Cup. The Examiner has this story this morning with a photograph as well of the Oceania Marina.
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It's a five-star cruise vessel. It can take 12 and a half, well, 1,250 guests. That's at a lot of places. And the prices start at €8,800 per person for 10 nights. Now, I suppose a lot of those will be coming over from the likes of America and Japan and China and all sorts of very wealthy countries like that. will have a lot of money. And they wouldn't think twice about spending that kind of money. I mean, some of them, four or five of them renting homes and be paying 50 grand for the privilege. But prices start at 8,800.
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It's an interesting package that they have on offer because you can go right up to the penthouse suite for 17 grand for 10 nights. So if it was two of you sharing the suite, you're looking at 34 grand for the privilege. But it comes with all inclusive accommodation.
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You also have premium dining and you get your official four day Ryder Cup tickets. And the tickets also include transfers to and from the venue and also the practice sessions. They really throw the kitchen sink at this. And I wonder, I mean, it's an interesting business initiative, isn't it? Bring a five-star cruise vessel in for the Ryder Cup. And I bet you, I bet you I will find that it will completely and utterly sell out. It's a bit of fun on top of everything else. And, you know, some people then will have lots of money to spend coming up to the Ryder Cup.
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Incidentally...
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The lotto was won down in Port McGee in the little post office shop in the village. One million euro lotto ticket. We don't know whether it's a local or a tourist or somebody getting on one of the Skellig boats or not, but it's a massive amount of money. I mean, there's something in the air down there because what was it I won on a quick pick down there a few weeks ago? Was it five or six hundred euro? But anyway, the place, actually, the place is absolutely flying. Nothing turned back after the Skelligs was used for The Force Awakens by Star Wars. It just gave it a complete injection.
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You've got a tiny little village of Port McGee where right through the summer there are traffic jams.
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It's absolutely mental. So anyway, another lotto winner, this time a million. You know, it's very sad. You know, the story of Madeleine McCann, who was three years old when she was abducted and disappeared. There's been a sight in her sound, all sorts of different people being questioned and fingers pointed at particular individuals.
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and many, many stories of sightings of Madeleine McCann over the decades. It's very sad. It really and truly is. But there's a kind of a sidebar to this story in the sense that her brother, Sean McCann, he's 21 now and he's her younger brother and he's 21 years old. And he will now represent Scotland in swimming in the Commonwealth Games in Glasgow. He's a distance freestyle specialist and he's also expected to... to compete in the 4x4 relay.
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So he would have been the tiniest, tiniest little baby, I suppose, when they were on holidays there in Prior to the Luge. And, of course, we know the rest of the... Well, we don't know the whole story regarding Madeleine McCann because nobody knows what happened to her, where she was, or whether she's alive or dead. But her brother has grown into a young man in his 20s now who's competing for Scotland in the Commonwealth Games. In other news, then...
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They say that people have different habits in the morning. Don't you love these stories? Because there's something in these for everybody. Like how many people actually get straight out of bed? How many people sleep through two or three snooze alerts on the alarm? How many people reach for their phone before they get out of bed? That's an interesting one. Nearly 50% of people check their phones within five minutes of waking up regularly.
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just still in the lab. But what's very interesting is the number one blend in the mornings for people happens to be a shower and coffee. Now, some people make do with the shower before they go to bed, but the vast majority of people have the shower first thing in the morning if they're showering at all. Now, some people like a good splash in the morning and leave it at that but people cannot do without a cup of coffee it beats tea in the morning as the brew of choice and it really kickstarts their day so apparently the number one way to start your day according to this research that's out now from Holiday Inn Express is shower and coffee and nothing else will do and then you have to look at this story from Liverpool just finally Imagine if you were over in Liverpool and they do all sorts of magical mystery tours there in Liverpool, it being the home of the Beatles.
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But the mail, sorry, it's the English Times this morning says, you talk about roll up, roll up for the magical mystery tour. So there's a bus full of fans and tourists on the magical mystery bus tour in Liverpool.
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Absolutely stunned when the bus pulled up at traffic lights and in the lane next to him, a car pulls up with a fellow waving out through the window and holding up his mobile phone to the tourist bus. And who is it? Only Paul McCartney. And who's on the phone FaceTiming live? But Ringo Starr, I mean, talk about getting value for money yesterday on that magical mystery tour. So he stopped at the traffic lights and he was waving the phone with Ringo on FaceTime and spoke to them.
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And I think he kind of glammed it up a little bit, the Liverpudlian accent. And people were absolutely blown away with it. Talk about timing. Talk about value for money. Talking about something. If you're a massive Beatles fan, you go to Liverpool and who do you meet? Only the two surviving Beatles. Get on to Prenderville.
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Text or WhatsApp Neil now. 0868-104-106.
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Get on to Prendable indeed. Hopefully when you do, we can make an update and we can make a difference. It's time for a recap first and then an update. You will recall if you're a regular listener to this program or indeed you've been following us regarding this on Instagram, Niamh and her baby had a frightening experience last Saturday. Blinded by the sun and an animal on the road. caused her to take some kind of, you know, well, obviously, if you're blinded, you lose vision, of course. And of course, the rest is history and a nightmare can happen.
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And it did. They left the road near Glenville and crashed on an embankment and ended up wedged between trees. They were so lucky that people came along. I can tell you that because if they didn't, we'd have a completely different, possibly tragic, fatal story at this stage. But here's a recap from Niamh's chat with me anyway.
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It ended upside down, wedged between a lot of big, mature trees, where everything is upside down, so the roof is under you, and you're trapped in it with your 16-month-old. These are dramatic pictures I'm looking at here.
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I jumped out the driver's side window because it was smashed to try to get her. And when I looked up, she was too far away. But the car that was driving in front of me, they saw the dust on the road and they turned around and they ran down the bank. They could see me and they came running straight down. And they rung 999 and stuff and they started trying to save my daughter. And as they were going down, another young guy saw them stop and juggle the car. She jumped out of his car and they all ran down the bank to me.
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You must have been hysterical.
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Another woman and her husband was driving and she saw me on the road and she stopped. Her husband got out and took off his top and ran down. So between all like six of them, I don't know how they done it, but they got her out. The woman's husband came off the bank with my daughter in his hands and she was perfectly fine.
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How did he get to you and your daughter? They must have had to climb trunks of the tree.
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But we do now know who they are, that's for sure. Niamh, good morning.
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Hi, how are you?
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So what happened next after our chat on air?
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Just when you post on social media, it obviously got a lot of attention. And through the comments and things like that, some people were saying like, oh, that's my grandson. And then one of the boys actually stopped. He commented saying, that was myself and my friends. And I was just able to message them all. Like even the woman... And her husband, they messaged, they commented on Instagram. And through just the power of social media, really, I was just able to find all of them.
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All right. I'm so delighted with that. I want to say thanks to Jake.
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Yeah.
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So I want to say thanks to Jake, our social media manager, for putting all that together and posting it, because we now know their names and who they are and the different groups involved. Just walk me through who they are.
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So...
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I'm trying to remember them all. There's a group of three.
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Well, I'll do it for you. Don't worry, Niamh. I'll do it for you. So the lads that stopped first were three young boys called Josh, Ellis and Luke.
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And then you said that there was another lad then he also stopped. He was probably solo on his own. His name is Eamon. You're spot on. And wasn't it Eamon that took your daughter out of the car?
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Yeah, one of the first guys from the first lot you just called out, they told me that Eamon got her out. And I think Eamon then passed her on to the next guy, like the husband, the wife, and he walked up the bank with her then.
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OK, and there wasn't a scratch on your little baby daughter. No, nothing. And then the lady and the man, that's a husband and wife, stopped.
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They are Bernadette and Kevin.
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And you managed to find them as we managed to find them as well.
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Yeah, exactly.
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They all got in touch when they saw it up online. And what was it that Bernadette and Kevin did?
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Like, Kevin just got out and he took off his top and he ran straight down to all the guys that were down there. And then he just walked up with her in his hands. And then Bernadette was just at the side of the road, calm me down. Like, she basically acted as if she was my mum at the side of the road. Like, she was just telling me everything was going to be okay and she just kept me beyond calm. And then when they brought my daughter up, she just let me sit in her car while I waited for my dad and stuff. And she's like, it's going to be okay. And, like, she was just...
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talking to her everything she's like it's going to be fine it's going to be fine these things happen and like all of them were you in shocker I know we spoke about were you in shocker were you hysterical or were you oh I was hysterical I was a bad mess like I genuinely wanted like she told me that I asked her to take one of those guys or take Eamon's number I don't even remember asking her to do that
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Listen, that's what happens when you're in shock. You don't think about these things. You're in the moment and you're just trying to deal with the moment. Before you know it, Josh and Ellis and Luke and Eamon and Bernadette and Kevin had all gone their way.
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Exactly yeah and even when I text them all yesterday like I've asked them all can I like send them something and like none of these people want anything for it like like all they all said was like like the first three lads that stopped they were just like it's just a natural thing to do like they're like I was just hoping that if it was ever me that someone would stop for me like like they're all just genuine people that have a heart of gold and like None of them want anything for it. Like, so, like, I'm happy that I found them. And I was just so happy that I could personally thank each one of them myself, like, instead of just, like, not saying anything to them, you know.
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I want to be fair to one of them because it's Eli as opposed to Ellis, I'm now told. Eli, lovely, lovely name. So, you know, those three lads, because they were driving ahead of you. I won't dwell on this much now. But they must have spotted whatever went on with your car through their rear view mirror. I think you were saying to me that the dust was flying.
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Yeah, they were even talking to me yesterday. They were just saying they could just see dust. But, like, the chances of you seeing that, it's like... It's just a miracle they saw it, like, and they just said when we saw that and we didn't see a car behind us, they drove straight back.
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Like, honestly, like... Because equally somebody could say, oh, I wonder what that was, and just drive on. Exactly.
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Yeah, exactly.
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So, like... Because the fire brigade said that you mightn't have been found for a long, long, long, long time.
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Yeah, they said that if the car didn't land that way, it would have kept on going down and it would have been a totally different story the way it landed like that was...
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But you could have been badly injured and time would have been of the essence. Exactly.
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They were just shocked as well that, like, they all got them out. Like, they're everywhere. It's something totally different. Like, so I'm just delighted that I could find everyone and thank you very much for posting it.
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Well, not at all. Listen, I'm happy to be part of it. I love when things come to a conclusion like that and we manage to, you know, complete the circle. So Josh and Eli and Luke and Eamon and Bernadette and Kevin, take a bow because they're all wonderful, wonderful people. As you say, I mean, none of them wanted to talk. They were just happy to be part of it. I acknowledge that and I respect that. But it still would be nice to extend the hand of friendship to them if they wanted to go for a spot of lunch in Cockbull or if maybe they might want to pick up one of our tourist family passes to some great locations across the county over the summer.
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So that offer is there if they want to get in touch. Is that all right with you, Niamh? Just to pay back, if you like, and just say thank you.
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Absolutely, because I've tried to offer already, but no one was taking things this day. If they would take Sanofi, I'd be more than happy. Okay, well, the offers are there.
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If they choose to pick up on it, not a bother in the whole wide earthly world, we'll sort that out. Do you mind me asking about that? Do you mind me asking that? And I'm delighted that everyone is well and your daughter is well and you're well.
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Yeah.
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And, you know, you'll recover from this as well, you know, psychologically as you go along. But can I ask you about the car?
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Yes. Is it completely and utterly totaled?
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as far as I know we all think it is anyway like the insurance is assessing at the moment like but it definitely is like there is They had to crane it out and stuff like that. There's no way. When we saw to take the stuff out, things wouldn't even open. The boot wouldn't open, nothing. It's gone. It's only a car. Ah, come here.
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I know that. I know. But the reason I ask is because it probably is in a terrible condition, but you survived it uninjured.
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Exactly. Yeah, yeah. Amazing. I'm just delighted. It's just amazing.
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All right. Lovely, lovely, lovely posts on our Instagram page. Do you read all of the lovely posts about people wishing you well?
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I did, I did. I tried to get back to so many I could, but I just, thanks again for getting me to find them anyway.
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Pages and pages of them. Look after yourself and your lovely daughter, Niamh, and I'm delighted that you managed to track down the people involved and say thank you. Thanks for coming on air again.
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Thanks very much again.
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Take care. We were all very curious as to who they were. Lovely, lovely comments actually from lots of different people. You know, you also, somebody texted when you say, okay, you can get blinded by the sun in your eyes, particularly if it's a low sun, smack right into the face. And of course, you're completely sightless then at that stage. Somebody was wondering, was it a fox that could run out on the road? Because you see... You know, obviously there's a lot of roadkill about and a lot of dead foxes along the road these days because there's so much house building going on, somebody said by text. And that's a valid point.
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What's very interesting about foxes is foxes for hundreds and hundreds of years, they say, right? Families of foxes have the same run. They use the same route and they still continue to use the same route, even though housing estates have been built where they normally moved from A to B. That's why you see them not now in residential housing estates and what have you. It was always that way. In fact, it's we got in their way as opposed to the other way around. Anyway, text 0868-104-106. Pick up the phone on 0818-104-106. Thanks again for the help of everybody involved in this.
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After we posted it yesterday, we found out exactly who all these heroes were. And as a typical example, Siobhan says on Instagram, some heroes don't wear capes. Delighted you got out safely. Well done to everyone who helped. And so say all of us.
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And you know something, to walk away from it or climb from the wreckage unharmed is just a miracle in itself. Mind you, Marion, good morning.
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Good morning, Neil. How are you?
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You're very kind to come on, Marion, because I know that you listened to Niamh's story with me on air and all of the memories of your own horrific experience came flooding back, right?
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Oh, it did, it did. It was just before, it was about October 18 years ago.
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Okay, and you're in the car driving with your three-month-old daughter.
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Yeah, I was after dropping off the young fella over in Fremont Cresce.
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And I was heading into Canturk and it was through the roads inside in Canturk, coming into Canturk.
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Okay, talk us through it.
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And it was due to the bad bends.
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And at the time, temperatures were after dropping. So the water from the hills was after coming down onto the road.
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And it was black ice. And I hit the black ice and I didn't bounce off the ditch or nothing like that. I went in over, in over the ditch, over the trees, down into the dike and nearly headed into the river down below.
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And I'm very nervous here now thinking about it.
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Listen, I can imagine it brings it all back. It's not easy. So thank you, Marianne.
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Yeah. And I woke up inside in the car and it was upside down. And the window was all...
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The window was all cracked and everything. And I kind of got out of the car and I said to myself, I must get the child out. So the child was actually in the front seat at this time because if she was in the back seat, the buggy was after flying out to the back seat and the child would have been dead too.
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I was just haunted that morning. The child was strapped into the front seat in the carrier. So the little baby carrier.
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Yeah, I know. I know.
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Yeah. And...
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I went up through the feed and I was actually trying to get her out but what I didn't realise was at the time my injuries were so severe I don't know what it was but a truck driver was passing on the main road. She was so high up from the ditch she was out of sea into the field and he see me coming across the field and he stopped and he was actually in shock because I didn't know what was happening and another car stopped behind him and he jumped in over the ditch and I kind of stopped dead I don't know I just went all blank after that but when I later up later on when I was going into the hospital I was inside in the bed in the ICU and there was bones sticking out of my tie and all glass in my legs my face I ended up then I spent about two weeks inside an ICU in the CUH and And I ended up above in the orthopedic on a Zilloframe.
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So I didn't actually know how bad. A Zilloframe. All my backbones, some of them were crushed. I had a few broken ribs. My ankle was shattered. And I don't know how I actually got the child and myself. out through the window. There was someone definitely looking after us that morning.
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Where did you get, yeah, I suppose the pain is perhaps numbed and you get the strength from somewhere.
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Yeah, it was actually numbed. I don't know where it came from. I was all stitched up and I was above the side of the orthopaedic for a few weeks and I was given a Zillophrame.
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I was lying on my back for about a week and I got very bitter above the side of the orthopaedic because when you're lying on your back, and you're looking at other people passing up and down your bed, you get very bitter because you're looking at the curtains. That's all I remember is all I could see was curtains on the wall. And that's what I was facing for 24 hours.
31:45
What do you mean by bitter? What do you mean by that?
31:49
I kind of got very bitter that people were walking around and I was so young and I was lying in the bed.
31:55
Why me?
31:55
And I couldn't actually go to the bathroom, couldn't shower. I was on the flat on my back for about two weeks.
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And I was kind of getting, I won't say, not abusive, but very bitter towards the nurses too. And they knew that I wasn't getting anywhere beyond the flat of my back. So they ended up sending me home after three weeks, but I was on a lot of painkillers and everything.
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And the bed had to be brought down from upstairs.
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And I was going around. I was sitting down. I was actually giving my nan's chair, actually. My dad's mother's chair.
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to one of them old chairs with the wing back.
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I do.
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The orthopedic ones for inside in the sitting room just that support my back and which I didn't realise how severe my body was.
32:47
As you said I just went numb.
32:50
And Gabby actually came out without a scratch. She ended up inside the ward in the newborn babies inside the CUH and she hadn't scratched wrong with her.
33:01
Isn't that amazing? She's in the seat next to you. You suffer all of these devastating injuries. And what did you say her daughter's name was?
33:11
Gabby.
33:12
Gabby is untouched.
33:13
Yep, untouched.
33:16
They brought her in and they checked her out and they sent her home within two days.
33:20
So you were literally learning to walk again, if you like, yeah?
33:23
I was, yeah. Literally, yeah. Literally.
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Literally to walk.
33:29
Did the airbags kick in?
33:31
To tell the truth, I can't even remember.
33:35
Okay, yeah.
33:36
I couldn't remember because I didn't realise how severe the gashes. Like, to this day, when I wear dresses and I wore a dress, let's say, up above my knee, you can see the gash going from my knee right up to my hip.
33:51
Never mind the amount of stitches you had to go through and the bone exposed through the leg and everything. And also, you know, the bitterness and the anger is all part of the post-traumatic stress and shock, you know, that's all.
34:02
It probably was.
34:03
That's all excusable, you know what I mean? Nobody would blame you for that.
34:06
Yeah, when I see the nurse bringing down the silver frame, I said, I don't want that. I don't want it. Get it away from me. So I was getting very bitter from being inside there.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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But I still, to this day, someone was watching out for us.
34:19
Isn't it amazing in your case and Niamh's case as well, not that I know much about these things, that neither car burst into flames? Thanks be to God.
34:27
I know, because that actually threw my head when we were down inside in that dike. We were down inside in that. It was kind of like a trench so that the water can run down. And we were heading, if the car didn't stop, we were heading down into the river.
34:42
It was just, everything was going through my brain and I was saying... Oh my God, you could have drowned. Yeah, I was saying that the car could bust up to the way you see it on movies. What a horror story.
34:54
Oh God. And there was a woman then from over by Kilbrinside, I think. I can't think of her name. But she took...
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They must have seen my injuries. But then I started coughing blood. So they knew the injuries were severe before the ambulance came.
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And they didn't want me to sit down either because, I don't know, there must have been somebody there, a medic or something, because all I wanted was to clap.
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And they wouldn't leave me.
35:24
You find the power from somewhere, though, don't you, to be able to get your little daughter out of the car and to scramble and to drag yourself to safety with, to be honest with your leg hanging off.
35:34
Yeah, it was all the way from my knee up to my hip. And to this day, you could see the white scar and went up to the orthopaedic, they were still taking glass out of my skin.
35:46
Oh my God. Do you believe, do you believe that, I think you said it, you were saying to the girls that somebody, you said, I truly believe someone was watching over us this day.
35:56
Oh, there was definitely someone watching over us because we should have been dead.
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We should have been dead that day.
36:02
Just like Niamh.
36:04
Like there's pictures taken of the car and I won't even look at them to this day. That the car was just The car was just upside down. The buggy from the back of the car was flung out the glass window out the back and thrown down onto the field.
36:20
Is there a time when your daughter would have been in the back seat strapped in?
36:24
There would have been. There would have been. But I was only after dropping off.
36:27
Not on that day.
36:29
My son to Fremont Cresce that morning.
36:33
And that was, yeah, you were going into Cantorca, she said, but that was 18 years ago. So your daughter now, I think you said Gabby, isn't it? She'd be going on 19. She would have no recollection of that, would she?
36:45
No, no, she'd be 18 in September. So she has no recollection of it.
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Nothing.
36:51
Amazing, isn't it?
36:52
So she was only, what, three months old? I know.
36:54
I'm sure who would. Yeah, who would?
36:57
Yeah, she would have been about eight weeks old, maybe 12 weeks old.
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Amazing, isn't it?
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She was very young, but there wasn't a bit of glass or nothing in the chair. The girl took her from the road when they took her in. Actually, the lorry driver was actually afraid to go over the ditch to find the child dead inside the chair. I was later told.
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But he sent somebody else in. There was cars everywhere then. I just blanked out after that.
37:26
Don't remember going up to the hospital. I remember lying in the hospital bed.
37:32
I was in ICU for about three days watching me.
37:35
Orthopedic for weeks, yeah.
37:37
Yeah, and then up to the orthopedic.
37:39
Well, you were a lucky, lucky young woman at the time that that truck driver came along when he did.
37:46
Only for his truck being so high.
37:48
He wouldn't have seen you. No one would have seen you.
37:50
If we were found dead, God forbid if we were dead, no one would have seen us. Because we were going deep into the ditch and the car was after landing on the roof.
38:01
I shudder that thought. I really do. Marion, I'm so glad that I got to talk to you because it gives great examples of being, you know, somebody firstly being in the right place at the right time. And secondly, that miracles happen in your case and indeed in Niamh's case as well. Do you mind if you have a quick chat with Martin? But thank you so much for sharing your story. I know it all came back to you again this week.
38:23
Oh God, when I read this, when I actually heard her on the radio yesterday, I was in floods because there's definitely guardian angels looking out for her.
38:31
Guardian angels on your shoulder. Right, Marianne, thank you so much. Take care, take care.
38:35
Thank you very much.
38:36
All the best, all the best. Okay, quick one before 10 this morning. Martin, good morning. Neil, good morning, how are you? I appreciate it. So this is one, and it's similar to something that happened to your mum, is it?
38:48
Yeah, about 50, between 15 and 20 years ago. I can't remember the exact year. I think it was about 07 or 08. I said for my brother-in-law, we're on the way to Kerry Airport to fly to Germany to see my next brother. And we got a phone call from my dad that said, your mum's been in an accident, but don't worry, everything's okay. So obviously I was panicking. I said, what's the story, Dad? Do you know when you turned up from Rafinha, do you go left to Riggis Gideon, right for Carragher Line?
39:14
Absolutely, I do.
39:15
Yeah, the business park inside there. She was working inside in the Raffine Business Park for a fresh start to the name of the company. And she drove into the car park. It was frosty. And at the edge of the car park, there's only like a two inch curbing.
39:31
She hit the brakes, but the brakes locked and the car kept going. She's a little Fiat Cinquecento and it's not much of a car. Went over the bank. The car rolled about three times and down a ravine. I don't know if you know it. It's about 40 feet down there.
39:45
Well, I know the creek that will be part of the golf course. So that's all what you're talking about there.
39:51
Yeah, well, it's actually between the Raffine and the Ring of Skiddy Road. We say between Raffine Village and Ring of Skiddy Road. There's a big, long stream there.
40:02
And she rolled down about three, four times and the fire service told her after only for the branches that were there. And...
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The little trees that slowed her down, she'd been in the river upside down. So Carol landed upside down anyway, and she was trapped between the seatbelt and the airbag and couldn't get her hand down to open the seatbelt. And she was afraid that if she did, she'd suffocate in the airbag because she was upside down, facing forward, and she was trying to keep her head back from the airbag.
40:26
Totally disorientated as well, yeah?
40:29
very very disoriented she's not sure how long she was there she reckons was about an hour because she had been supposed to go to work for nine i think it was around about 10 15 10 30 emergency services pulled her out um i think it was a 30 to 45 minute operation but luckily about an hour in somebody from the business park heard her shouting and she was calling for help and like it's it's in a place where you wouldn't see it on the show
40:53
Yeah, so this is another story of luck as in somebody spotting because ultimately...
40:59
Inches from a stream, inches from a stream upside down. She said her mouth went in the water. She knew it was game over and she could feel the car.
41:05
Oh, six inches of water would have done that because she's trapped between the seatbelt and the airbag. Six inches of water.
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Exactly, and she was lying with her head on the roof.
41:13
Her head's on the roof.
41:14
She was compressed by the airbag.
41:17
Oh my God almighty. Was she injured?
41:22
She was. She was more shaken than injured. She was plattered and bruised a bit, but they gave her an MRI and checked everything over. And actually, while I think of it, they were talking last week about ambulance services. Even back then, she was two hours waiting for the guy in the ambulance to admit her back to the back door of A&E.
41:36
Yeah, they have to wait. And that was what? How long ago?
41:43
Oh, that was 15 to 17 years ago.
41:45
And we still have the same problem trying to get A&E patients through from an ambulance. But that's amazing, you know, that really and truly is because, you know, right time at the right place. The car flipped a number of times as it rolled down as well, didn't it?
42:01
It rolled sideways, yeah, but it landed upside down.
42:04
My God. And how is she now?
42:09
She's a very nervous, very tentative driver ever since. She only goes out in the car now when she has to know. She'll kill me for saying that, but she was never the world's greatest driver. But this wasn't her fault at all.
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And you know what? They're tiny little almost like kind of dinky cars.
42:24
Yeah, they've since reinforced the curbing and made it higher there because I suppose it probably was an accident waiting to happen. But like that in the story, no one sees it until it happens.
42:34
It's all about miracles, isn't it? That's all you can call them. Miracles. All right. Fair play. Okay. Much obliged. Thanks, Martin. Wow. Thanks, Neil. Okay. There's three different stories. Well, with, um, you know, thankfully, thankfully, um, happy consequences as opposed to loss of life. Well, there was serious injuries. My God, Marion went through the horrors there with regards to the, the surgery and the recovery and everything, but black ice, huh? That, that's a killer because you don't see it. And it's literally like sliding on. Yeah. Ice, glass, butter, if you like. Um, Keep them coming.
43:05
Text 0868 104 106. Pick up the phone on 0818 104 106. And we all have to go with care. Yeah, and you know, sunshine really can be deadly, can't it? We've all been in situations like that. You have the little, you know... the little caboose above you that you can pull down. But sometimes it just happens and you don't even spot it with a low sun and you're totally and utterly blinded. Keep them coming though. Text 0868 104 106. Pick up the phone on 0818 104 106 and we'll pick it up after 10.
43:48
We live in the most beautiful part of the world and certainly the most beautiful county in Ireland and we need to look after it and protect it. Actually, we've got more summer passes to give away for you and the family today and right across July and right across August as well. And this morning... I'm featuring Dursey Cable Car, one of Ireland's most unique attractions. And it takes you out to Dursey Island across the Dursey Sound on the cable car. It's Ireland's only cable car and the only cable car in Europe that crosses open seawater. Fun fact for you. And out on Dersey, you will have such a lovely day.
44:21
You really and truly will. You might want to bring a picnic with you. And there's great walking there and wonderful sightseeing. And, of course, you've got Murphy's food truck there just at the cable car. And I would highly advise either to get there hungry or come back from Dersey Island hungry and get some of the fish and chips there. Absolutely glorious. So we've got those to give away. I'll tell you a little more about it as we head across the morning, but we'll be opening the phone lines just before midday to give away family passes for the Dursey cable car to Dursey Island.
44:49
And it's just great fun. And you know, with the weather we're having at the moment, it would be even better. Meanwhile, I'll come back to all sorts of rather related stories and pastimes and leisure activity a little later on. But I mentioned earlier on this morning that there was a fire in the Glen Park. And, you know, it's only a matter of days, really, since the last one, which was the wildfire that was set off by young fellas with a lighter. Some say they didn't know what they were doing. I don't know. Jury's out on that one. You've got a lighter and you light things. What do you expect to happen? But, of course, if it wasn't for many different fire crews centred around Crosshaven fire crews, they described it on the air as dancing with the devil that was that bad.
45:27
And they were lucky down in the Crosshaven area that houses and businesses and buildings didn't catch fire and we'd have a much worse situation. But the Glen Park fire... I see Councillor Jerrica Struthers of the Workers' Party, who's taken over the seat of the retired Ted Tynan, says this is a result of City Hall abandoning working class areas while at the same time pouring millions into all of these prestige projects for city centres developments.
45:59
I was astonished to know. I mean, I know that there are park rangers in the Tremor Valley Park. Just try and have your dog off a lead out there and they will appear out of nowhere in their vans and what have you. But there are none, apparently, in the Glen Park. It's so immense and so big. She's right when she said that there should be council park wardens permanently looking after the Glen on the ground. But what happened that led to all of these tenders battling the fire in the Glen? Well, we have Victor Shine, second officer with Cork Fire Service by phone.
46:31
Victor, good morning.
46:32
Good morning. How are you keeping? Good, my friend. Good. So I hear you saying in the news there at 10 that it was malicious. You can tell that already, can you?
46:41
Well, it appears to be malicious due to the significant size of the fire. Because again, when we're notified to these incidents, we're getting there obviously very quickly within a very short number of minutes, probably less than four minutes. And we are normally dealing with fires to quite a small extent. But this was a significant fire when crews got there and it was spreading quite quickly. Now, they got it under control quickly and But due to the nature of the deep-seated fire, how deep it burns into the undergrowth, it takes a lot of resources, a lot of water to actually get that fire into control and to cool it down.
47:20
Are you talking about an accelerant used to start it?
47:24
And again, that would be for investigations. But again, for something to start to such a large extent, there would have been a bit more effort put into causing a fire of that extent.
47:34
OK, it would be good to know when somebody's made a call on and if it was or not, because this is just not acceptable. Like what impact, mind me asking, what impact does it have with regards to the lives of wildlife that will be living there and thriving there?
47:51
It is destroying all the small and large wildlife. Again, there may be foxes and other types of wildlife in that area. Again, that is there for the enjoyment of wildlife. all the population of Cork City.
48:06
So you'd have foxes, maybe foxes and their cubs. You could have birds laying eggs and little chicks and things like that.
48:16
And butterflies and all the types of nature that we might like to see when we're going walking through these amenity areas. And again, for a small number of people to perhaps go out and destroy that and spoil it for every other citizen of Cork and the City Council are putting huge efforts into keeping these parks under well protected and well maintained areas that we can go out and enjoy with our buggies or cycling and so on like that. For somebody to go up and burn it and create a situation where it's going to take months to for that to recover back to a decent state again.
48:57
And as I've mentioned as well, you have the smoke and contaminants coming off the burning of the materials, going into people's houses, destroying clothes, destroying properties, and it is also a potential risk to health for people with respiratory issues.
49:12
Is this just purely coincidental that it would happen on or less than a week after the wildfire in Crosshaven and Camden, do you think? Or these happen every summer?
49:21
Well, Well, it's happening every summer, but it's because the weather is, again, so dry and the materials become more vulnerable to accelerants or to putting a naked flame to it and it igniting. You could say maybe a bottle and it causing the sun to cause the fire, but an extent of a fire of that needs something else to help it along its way.
49:49
So again...
49:51
I would kind of encourage people not to be causing malicious fires like that. And if anybody sees or knows anything about those fires, to report it to unguards.
50:00
Why is there a call out in some countries? I think I heard this morning some countries actually banned the use of disposable barbecues. You across that, are they lethal?
50:10
Again, any device, whether it's a disposable barbecue or a gas or propane-fired heating system or barbecue, these are all absolutely safe under controlled conditions. You're picking an area that's not vulnerable to being set on fire. You're dealing with the material after, so you're cooling the, if it's a disposable barbecue, you're cooling it down in water and you're removing the barbecue and disposing of it in an appropriate manner and in a safe manner. So if it's done in the correct way it's designed to, there is no problem whatsoever.
50:47
It's when people abandon hot barbecues in vulnerable areas, again, we can have a problem.
50:54
Okay, okay. This is where we're at. Ballyville and Fire Service headed that up. Was there resistance from other crews, do you think?
51:01
Yes, we had a huge response to that, including turntable ladders. So, again, it was because of the amount of smoke it could be seen from the south side of the city.
51:12
And the smoke was spreading towards other properties, causing obviously distress to residents and so on.
51:18
We put a huge resource at it to get that smoke plumed down as quickly as possible. And again that evening, it happened again that evening.
51:28
And again, the same resources are put on it. But again, we did have river rescues during that event, which again required other resources to go.
51:36
There are other emergencies, of course, that, you know, you can't be two places. You say river rescue, unfortunately, somebody in the water.
51:46
There was somebody in the water in Ballancolig, potentially droning in Ballancolig. A bystander entered the water to assist this person who was in difficulty and fire crews went out and assist them ashore.
51:58
But again, we are... Milicious fires are avoidable in circumstances where fire brigades are needed elsewhere, for God's sake.
52:06
100%, yeah. We are endangering lives with these malicious acts.
52:10
Sad news out of Bordeaux this morning, Victor. Two firefighters died battling a huge blaze. That's very, very sad. It's a risk of the job, but it must be upsetting.
52:20
Absolutely. Where you have large fires like that, our sympathies will go to our colleagues in France and all over Europe that are dealing with these large fires. Again, it is a challenging fire to deal with, especially in areas with threes.
52:34
It's hugely complex and again, huge resource. All right. Will people ever learn? Appreciate it. Thanks for taking the call, Victor. Victor Schein, second officer with Cork City Fire Service. Councillor Jessica Strother says this is nothing short of, her words, an absolute disgrace. The direct result of City Hall abandoning working class areas, pouring millions, into other projects. I understand what she's saying and she's exasperated about the north side of the city very often, most of the time, not always, is treated completely different to anything south of the river.
53:05
But if this was malicious, this was malicious, full stop. Somebody, for whatever reason, decided that this would be a bit of fun. But she says these fires just don't happen out of nowhere. We don't know if the specific blaze, she says, was anti-social behaviour or just a terrible accident. With regards to the dry condition, we kind of get an indication now, I would think, that it was malicious and on purpose. But this business of they're not being park wardens, you know, that's wrong. You've got park rangers out in the Tremor Valley Park.
53:35
I believe the Glen Park deserves the same kind of respect and the same kind of attention. She's right in that regard. She says the north side is utterly sick. of being treated like an afterthought. Our public parks belong to ordinary working people and it's time City Hall put people before profit, she says. Text 0868 104 106. Yes, two firefighters died in Bordeaux last night. Flights temporarily suspended as a consequence of the fires.
54:01
You know, that pales into insignificance when you see two firefighters going about their job, losing their life. But as a consequence of that as well, then a lot of Cork people passed the fires on the way to the airport yesterday and they were describing smoke and fire on a huge, huge scale. When it catches hold, boy, I'll tell you something, you know, fire and flames, deadly. Back after the break, text 0868104106.
54:27
Talk to James in a moment, if you don't mind.
54:33
But I heard subsequently after we got off the air yesterday that Simon Harris has had a lot to say, actually, on e-scooters and stuff like that across yesterday afternoon. And somewhere, I think it might have been to the journal, he said that as far as he's concerned, and he's the Tawnister, probably soon to be Taoiseach as well, of course, that as far as he's concerned, e-scooters should be taxed. should be registered, should have a license and should be insured. So he's not saying anything about, you know, OK, well, you know, just just register them, have some kind of a license to buy them and to to ride them.
55:06
He's saying, no, there's got to be a price to be paid. And that includes insurance and tax. So be interesting. It's still very much up in the air because that's the first time I heard anybody talking about tax and insurance on them as well. I followed a small wheel e-scooter from Cork Airport down the Glen Road onto the Ballygarvin Road and all the way to Carrigoline. Going downhill, it got up to 75 kilometres an hour, but averaged about 55 kilometres along the road. The rider had no safety gear, no helmet, no licence, no tax, no insurance, just a hoodie.
55:38
Keep them safe, says Owen from Carragher Line. This obviously is one of the e-scooters that has been doctored. I don't know whether you can actually buy them. I don't know. Maybe you can get them online or whatever. They can be sourced for you. You can get up on e-scooters that are super powerful with massive batteries that can travel at that speed. I regularly see two people on e-scooters using the footpaths, nearly knocking down pedestrians because they're going that fast. I see schoolchildren riding them on the back roads with heavy school bags on their back.
56:06
Oh, my God. Oh, my. Would parents ever wake up? What happens if one of these reckless scooter riders T-bones my Mercedes and causes 15,000 euro worth of damage? Who pays for it if they have no insurance? Who's paying for it is right. Well, I can tell you what. They're trying to get it out of a 15 or 16 year old on an e-scooter. Good luck with that. No insurance. When we were eight or nine, we made go karts out of timber and old pram wheels. and flew down the hills in a housing estate with no brakes, three or four of us at a time. We climbed 70-foot trees to build tree houses.
56:37
We climbed cliffs with no ropes. We had great freedom. Most of us came through it. I think the difference today is that children haven't had the same freedom to explore and to learn about risk naturally. They're going straight onto powerful e-scooters with any real perspective of speed or reflexes needed to handle them. It's an interesting perspective to have because when I was reading that first, I thought you were going to say, let him up on the e-schoolers. We did an awful lot worse when we were young. Anyway, keep them coming. Text 0868 104 106. Lots of different topics, actually, by text and by email.
57:11
Just, I don't know, there was somewhat spiking of drinks this morning and the girl that was allegedly spiked inside in town and all she was drinking was a glass of water. I don't know if this is an urban myth or not, but somebody texted me to say, Hi Neil, I was told last night about a woman in a toilet in town who was allegedly asked if she wanted to smell a beautiful perfume. The story is that after smelling it, she lost consciousness and when she came around, all of her belongings were gone, stolen, lifted. I also heard about another incident where men in a city centre car park allegedly asked a woman if she wanted to try a new perfume.
57:46
But thankfully, she refused. I don't know if these stories are true, but I thought it would be worth making people aware and asking them to be cautious of approach by strangers offering perfume samples. Can't come on air, but feel free to share. I am sharing it, and I don't know if it's true. Nothing would surprise me these days, though. I mean, I don't even know if it's commonplace that women inside in toilets or bathrooms in pubs or restaurants share perfumes or share makeups or, you know, would you like to try mine? I'll try yours. Maybe that is a thing.
58:15
But she conked out and she was robbed by all accounts.
58:19
And then with regards to relationships themselves. I'd love to get your thoughts on this now, because this is right out there. Absolutely bizarre. Hi, Neil. I wanted to share my story about a man I was dating who called me a hooker because of the dress I was wearing. Now, she also sent me photographs of herself wearing the dress. It is a beautiful dress. And anyway, it's none of anybody's business to put labels on people. Anyway, he called me a hooker because of the dress I was wearing. He broke up with me a couple of weeks ago, but it all started when I wore a dress he did not approve of.
58:53
He said it belonged on the bedroom floor and became furious when I decided to wear it anyway. Later that night, he left me alone in the pub and ended the relationship. We had only been together for about four months, but I generally thought that he was the love of my life. Looking back, I feel as though the person I was dating never really existed. I had let one or two things slide... but his reaction to the dress showed me how angry and controlling he was.
59:21
Even weeks later, he's still furious about it.
59:25
He made me feel as though there was something wrong with me and that I was responsible for everything that happened. I've been too embarrassed to tell some of my friends and family the full story because I cannot believe I didn't see it sooner. I asked him whether he had told his friends the real reason we broke up, but I doubt he did because he has an image to uphold, you see. It's been nearly five weeks since the relationship ended, and although it was incredibly painful, I'm now actually relieved that I saw his true color so early. I truly feel as though I dated someone who didn't really exist, and I'm thankful to be away from him now.
60:00
Don't give up my details, but feel free to share. Absolutely. I'll tell you something. You say now that you feel thankful and relieved that the relationship is over. I think you really and truly dodged a bullet there with that fella. I mean, it's interesting you say that During the few weeks leading up to this, you let one or two things slide. But of course, the reaction to the dress, him calling you and looking like a hooker, was a game changer. He broke up the relationship. So that's inconsequential as to who broke it up.
60:31
What's important here is that you're not with this guy anymore because that would just get worse and worse. And if he was furious or angry, You know, that anger then could ultimately turn to physical altercation where he would actually inflict pain. So I think you're very lucky because it could have been a hell of a lot worse if you stuck with him, you know, Put it down to experience.
60:55
You'd only been together about four months, but you generally thought he was the love of your life. Well, thanks be to God you got a wake-up call. I mean, it's a small price to pay because if you had stayed with him, I believe it would have got a hell of a lot worse. But I'd love to get people's thought. This is actually an example of the early signs of what would ultimately become very serious. Coercive control and gaslighting and other things like that. So she sent me a picture of herself in the dress, and it's amazing.
61:21
It's her dress. No matter what she wants to wear, it is her space, her body, her dress. But it's a perfectly normal cocktail dress, which a lot of women wear in different colours and different shades. It's got a slight slit on the leg and is low at the cleavage, but not exposing anything. And even if it had, I mean, like, what the hell?
61:42
You know, what the hell?
61:44
It's like saying, oh my God, you know that stupid nonsense that we used to have in court where they were holding up underwear or you'd have defense in rape cases, blaming the victim and stuff like that. Anyway, your thoughts are welcome. Text 0868-104-106. You're one lucky girl. You dodged him and that's a great thing. You got an early wake-up call because that would have been absolutely nasty, I can tell you. Can I talk to James, if you don't mind?
62:12
James is a pensioner, so he's into his 70s now, so he might well be on a speakerphone because of his hearing. But James, good morning.
62:20
Good morning, Neil. How are you? I'm good, my friend. Can you hear me all right? I can, yeah. Can you hear me? I can hear you loud and clear. Good morning to you all above. Do you mind if I say the area you live in? Because I think it's a beautiful area.
62:32
You can, of course. St. Luke's. Were you born and reared there or what?
62:39
I was born in a nursery home below in...
62:43
Below it there in Wilmington Road, just above where the off-licence was. But I'm living in Montfew Torres all my life. Would that have been the Glenvera?
62:55
Yeah.
62:57
I'll be darned. That's a long time ago.
63:00
It is, 73 years ago.
63:02
Okay, so you've arthritis in the old hip. Have you got a walking stick to get around? Yeah.
63:08
I was a walking stick to get around. I was above, my doctor sent me to the HSC assessment clinic above in Grana Braher when they gave me the walking stick. They were going to give me a walker, but when I taught them, there's actually four steps from the front gate up to the front door and then there's a big step from the front door into the hallway. So they told me I wouldn't be able to manage the walking stick.
63:34
No, we wouldn't be able to manage the walker.
63:35
The walker, yeah.
63:37
So the reason, like I understand because of, you know, the arthritis and the pain and the stick that you can't do all of the jobs for yourself, James. You can't.
63:49
I can't, no. I have a good crowd looking after me. They're called friendly call and they're doing a lot for me. And I'm very appreciative to them for what they're doing for me.
64:00
So friendly call do a lot more than just a phone call, do they?
64:04
They've done... The house is in a bit of a mess and I don't hope they don't mind me saying this if they're listening, but they've got any cleaning crew to declutter the house and there's a different house totally.
64:17
I'm so happy for you.
64:19
I tried alone... They've found me twice and I haven't had a word for them in four months. So I've given up on the line.
64:25
That's a shame. That's a shame. Friendly call are terrific. They're absolutely excellent. I'm delighted to hear that your experience is good with them.
64:36
Especially Jackie and us, sir. They've been a great help to me.
64:40
Okay. But let's see if we can help now. What do you need doing that clearly you can't do yourself?
64:48
There's a slight entrance to the hose, and it's overgrown with brembers and reed. And if I could use that, if I could be able to get in around that, because there's just a small step from the back into the yard, and I'd be able to use the walker.
65:05
Okay. But it's all overgrown and I barely need someone to come in and clear that.
65:11
I understand. See, if you... So I understand. Correct me if I'm wrong now. You have a side entrance that's completely overgrown. You're using a cane.
65:20
And the cane, it's fine, but it's not ideal. The walker with the wheels... Is it a wheeled walker or is... You know...
65:27
It's got four wheels and a seat on it.
65:30
Okay, so if that side entrance was cleared, you'd be able to get in and out of your home via the side entrance and you'd be able to use the walker then, or I think you'd use the shopping trolley as well. It'd be handier than the cane.
65:45
It would, because to mention the shopping trolleyes, when I'm in town, I go and try to match suspensors and get the trolley at night. I find it easier when I can put my two hands on the trolley to get around.
66:00
Ah, lovely. I'm glad, I'm glad. You have your little tricks to help you, don't you?
66:04
Well, I'm definitely not going to give in to arthritis because if I gave in to arthritis, I'd never get outside the front door.
66:11
And what is the story with the arthritis? Is it gradually getting worse and more painful?
66:18
It's only painful when I get up first thing in the morning but when I get out and about I try and get into town every day. It eases off a bit because they taught me the best thing for arthritis is movement exercise.
66:32
And is it worse in the winter time or in damp conditions and things like that?
66:36
I've been only fighting for the last two years because when I was working I was constantly moving so it didn't bother me so Unfortunately, since I returned, I'm doing a lot of sitting down. So I think that's what brought it on.
66:49
Ah, yeah. Use it or lose it, as they say. Movement is important, isn't it? So if we could get that cleared, that area overgrown, that would be a great job done now, wouldn't it?
67:01
Would, yeah.
67:02
But I'd like to try and get someone too to clear the front garden.
67:06
Because it's stopping the light from getting into the rooms. Yeah, yeah.
67:11
It's frustrating for you, jobs that you would have been able to do yourself in the past.
67:15
Yeah, I can't do it. Unfortunately, no, I can't do it. I can't do it. I know that. Yeah.
67:20
And in all the years that were there, you know, did you settle down? Did you marry? Did you have children, brothers and sisters and things?
67:29
No, I never... Unfortunately, I never got married, Neil, but... My parents are dead away, and my brother died there from Parkinson's about eight years ago, so I'm living alone.
67:39
So you all lived in the family home for the generations, your parents before you, then yourself and your brother, and now you're alone.
67:46
Now I'm living on my own.
67:49
Yeah.
67:49
So... What are you... You're on the... Well, like a €300 pension. Like, you wouldn't have a whole lot of spare income there.
67:57
Yeah, because...
68:00
I never thought about saving when I was growing up. Why did you work at it?
68:05
I was working in the bar trade, and the last job I had was, I was working as a security officer in the city hall in the new building.
68:14
Right. And what pubs did you work in back in the day?
68:16
I worked, well, they're gone now, in Angus Street, in Melborough Street, and the top of the hill in Gronabra.
68:25
Yeah, you got around, didn't you?
68:27
I did. And I also walked in the Duke's Iron Hotel for a while. And then I walked in the bar down in Man, but I was getting home too late at night, so I gave it up and I went into security.
68:40
I was glad I went into security and gave up the bar for it.
68:42
It's tough, isn't it? The hours are tough.
68:45
Yeah, yeah.
68:46
That's for sure.
68:47
That's what I was in. I was getting home at three and four o'clock in the morning.
68:51
Ah, sure, I know. I know. You know, I'd love now to be able to sort this out for you because it would be an absolute game changer with regards to your freedom and your ability to move about, you know?
69:01
Because if I had a stroller or a walk or whatever, people have said to me, that would make a big difference to me because I find with the shopping trallies, I could nearly start running.
69:13
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69:15
But you're still I mean you're independent though I mean the arthritis is a bummer for sure it is but you're only in your early 70s so there's a lot of mileage on the clock yet so you're clearly shopping for yourself and you're probably cooking for yourself and everything.
69:28
No I don't cook I haven't cooked in yet.
69:30
What do you do with the food that you buy in Dunn's?
69:34
All I buy is just milk and tea and maybe a sandwich for my tea because I go into that beautiful restaurant in Dunn's there on Patrick Street for my lunch every day.
69:43
Oh come here isn't that unbelievable?
69:45
because, alright, so I go, I get, when I go down, I find it difficult, no, alright, if I go down to the butchers in St. Luke's because he does cavalry, it's a bit of a job of walking back up, back up from St. Luke's. So I find, and also I find that if I get my, lunch, be around the buses in St. Louis, I come home and eat it, and then I don't move out of the house.
70:07
I know, sure, I know. Yeah, you're a creature of habit. But you get the dinner in the middle of the day inside in Dunn's, and there's fierce value in that buffet, in that carvery. That's fabulous.
70:17
They've got less than 10 euro for the main meal. I've been in there.
70:21
It's fantastic. It's fantastic. It's a pity you'd struggled. Would you be able to get up the steps of Kelly's for a bit of bacon and cabbage, or corned beef and cabbage? Yeah.
70:33
I can't use escalators anymore because I had two or three years ago I tried to get up on the escalator and it fell backwards.
70:42
Oh, mind you so. But listen to me, isn't St. Luke's the most beautiful place? Haven't they put an awful lot of care and attention into it?
70:50
And just around the corner there and up the road to you there's the Montanati Hotel. Do you know it?
70:56
I do, yeah.
70:57
Isn't it the most beautiful hotel? It's absolutely gorgeous. You've never gone in there?
71:01
I've never been there. I've never been there, no.
71:03
Well, give me an opportunity to fix that then, will you? And let's get you in there because the owner of that, good friend of mine, wonderful guy, Frankie Whelan joins me by phone. Frankie, good morning.
71:13
Good morning, Neil. How are you?
71:14
Good morning. How are you? It's been a while. You've been listening to James and it prompted you to pick up the phone. Why?
71:20
It did, yeah, because, you know, I'm just... First of all, we're very proud members of the St. Luke's community and all of us try and publicly and otherwise trying to do our bit in the...
71:37
In the community. So just listening there this morning, we have extensive gardens, as you know, in the Montanati, and that also means we have an extensive garden team. And so we may be able to help on two fronts here. Firstly, We'd like to offer, and I'll be directly involved myself with the gardening team to get that side entrance cleared.
72:04
Frankie Whelan with the shovel in his hand. You're joking me.
72:07
Oh, absolutely.
72:11
And the second and probably most important thing is, I think, to help with the arthritis issue. I'm going to offer to put a programme together in the leisure centre, particularly with the pool, which I think would be really, really helpful to get the movement going, etc. So I think on two fronts, we can really, really help here. And we'd be delighted to offer that if we're in a position to pick it up.
72:35
That is an incredibly... What do you make of that, James?
72:39
I'm stunned, to be honest.
72:41
I am too.
72:43
I didn't think I'd get enough of that quick.
72:45
Well, and James said, to put the final topping on it, and never said we lost an opportunity, we opened a vintage pizza van on the, just outside our glass house restaurant about two weeks ago. So, A, you'll be able to walk in or swim in and have a pizza on the way home to your new cleared back garden, okay?
73:08
Oh my God, what a generous offer.
73:11
Sure, Ivan. Thanks so, so, so much.
73:14
You know that program with regards to the pool, that would be fantastic for the arthritis, even if it's a bit of a swim or a bit of a walk in the water, James. That would be fantastic. I can't swim. No, but even walking, you know, put on a couple of armbands, walking in water, strengthening his muscles. Listen, it's going to be great. Maybe when you're in there as well, you can go into the cinema and the Montanati and watch a film when you're in there, a box of popcorn or something.
73:39
Maybe I'm pushing it now, am I, Frankie?
73:41
No, indeed, you're not at all. Just to say, we're really, really glad to help out a neighbour and you can pass on my details and we'll take it on.
73:50
I will. Listen, it's an incredible oasis that you have there in the Montanati. The woodland suites are absolutely stunning. The hotel and the gardens are just so beautiful. So congratulations on your continued success, Frankie. You're very kind. Thank you so much.
74:04
Not at all. Glad to help. Thank you.
74:29
Oh, I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. Well, that's the good...
74:35
I'm actually... That's what it was.
74:40
Yeah, that's the kindness of people, the generosity of people.
74:44
So you'll have a new lease of life. You can use the walker now as opposed to the cane because you won't have to go up and down those steps at the front door. You can go out to the side. It'll be much easier for you. A lot more free. Yeah, yeah. All right. So I'd love to see the job when it's finished. I'm sure that Frankie's gardening team will send me a picture. So the programme for the pool will be great as well. And have a nosh there with the pizza truck that they've put on site. And we'll get all the gardens sorted for you, all right?
75:13
Oh, that's fantastic.
75:15
Okay, well, look after yourself, James. And call, we'll talk again.
75:20
And thanks for everything. Not at all. I'm glad I got in touch with you. I'm glad you've got in touch with you. It's actually a friend of mine working in the marxistons that suggested I get in touch with you.
75:31
Talk to Prendival, they say. Talk to Prendival. It's highly recommended. And I'm glad you did because we love helping people. And the Cork people are the best in the world for generosity. Although I don't think Frankie's Cork. I think he's up the country. But we claim him as our own now. He's an honorary Cork man.
75:48
Definitely, no, definitely.
75:49
Well done. All right, James. We'll chat again when it's all done, all right?
75:52
We'll chat again when it's all done. God bless. Okay, and again, thanks for everything.
75:56
Not at all. My pleasure. God bless.
75:58
Take care.
76:08
Great story. Delighted for you, James. Upwards and onwards, my pal. Power on, as the man says. Thank you to Frankie and all of the staff at the Montanati Hotel. Yeah, that's fake. Martina got in touch. That perfume story is fake. It started out in America. It's being shared in Ireland like it happened here. So when I got it texted, it had been adapted to say that it happened in town. Would you like to smell my beautiful perfume? You pass out. And then fellas in the car park asking women to try new perfume. I mean, you want to be really stupid now if a man walked up to you and said you want to smell some perfume.
76:39
But then again, it's not true anyway. So it's an urban myth. It's fake, man. Thank you for that, Martina. You're very good. Text 0868104106. And even though I've had experiences down in the NCT that have been very good, I find them very professional down there. You're saying, yeah, you're only saying that so they'll know and they'll pass your car. Not at all. There's all sorts of machines now do the passing. It's not all just down to the testers or the mechanics. But not everybody agrees, particularly with regards to language barriers. Somebody said, speaking about English, Ireland is speaking English. Ireland doles out passports to people who don't have any English and have never any intention of ever speaking English.
77:14
What a broad statement to make. That is absolutely insane. There are an awful lot of people who came here from overseas and they're living here, they're wearing children here. They're children.
77:23
You see examples of it all the time from African countries where the kids are going to school and they're speaking not only English, they're speaking Irish. And other people are working in jobs where they came here and they learn the language. Now, it's a different matter if you're working in jobs in the public and you have no English. And this is where that started, actually. Not being able to communicate to people who are technically your customers. Anyway, this chap says I had my NCT last week and it failed. The tester was foreign. I struggled to understand what he was trying to explain to me. I didn't have my glasses, so I told him to read the failure sheet. He couldn't, so I had to read it when I got home.
77:56
Even after reading it, I still can't make head nor tail of what he was saying about the lights. Now I have to bring my car to a garage in Cork to ask them to explain it. The frustrating thing is the car had just been serviced before I put it in for the NCT. Now, that's a bigger issue. If your car was fully serviced before an NCT, how do mechanics miss it? Points that actually lead to a fail. It's not as if you got a warning. It was a fail. Like mechanics should be picking up on those things. Anyway, text 0868-104-106. There's lots more like that.
78:27
We'll come back to it. But that email that I read earlier on, And a story that was shared. Now, I've seen the dress. It's a cocktail dress. She's lucky that she's not in a relationship with this man anymore because this would have gone from bad to worse. He called her a hooker because of the dress he was wearing. He got angry, didn't approve of it, became furious, left the pub, ended the relationship. That's mad stuff. Jenny, good morning.
78:55
Good morning, Neil. How are you doing? I'm good. What do you think of that?
79:00
Well, when I heard it, I'll be honest, I'm just so glad that she got out when she did.
79:08
And to be honest with you, I would be amazed if he still doesn't try and get back in contact with her. Because generally, with somebody like that, that's a huge red flag because he's had all three elements in there. He's done the control, he's done the isolation and the punishment. So he's asked her not to wear the dress or told her not to wear the dress. He's then obviously, you know, been really cross about it. That's the punishment. And then the isolation where he's left her in the pub on her own. That is massive.
79:39
And I'm just talking from like previous career in the police in the UK. Like, and so early on, generally somebody with regards coercive control and behaviour like that, it's generally quite slowly done.
79:53
But for him to do that as quick as he did, but then to openly admit that previous partners have actually said he is controlling is massive. But somebody like that generally does intend to stop because he won't be happy that she hasn't done what he wanted her to do. And I know she said she's broken up with him, but I guarantee he will come back in a month or two months or three months with an email and a long sob sob story. But I'm just so glad that she walked away. I'm so glad that she actually saw the signs because...
80:23
Okay, it was important. She stays away.
80:26
Yeah, well, that's the big thing. So, and that was the thing that I kind of, you know, kind of zoomed in on is that we broke up and he broke it off of me. Again, another element of control. The punishment is coming in there. You didn't do as you were told.
80:42
It's the aftermath. That's the bit that I worry about. And kind of from the bigger picture, just for people like who've been in relationships a lot longer, you generally would worry about when the female is going to break up with the male partner. And I say female...
81:01
You know, I'm just from data, say 93%. She's listening now.
81:05
She's listening now, Jenny. Oh, is she? Brenda tells me. She's listening to this, so it's important. Because she let one or two things slide. Do you mind me? Have you ever had experience of men like that?
81:19
Yeah.
81:21
Are you happy to share? Are you okay to share?
81:23
Yeah, of course. Because the thing is, if you look at the moment, it's all about dating apps. And I've been on your radio before with regards to dating apps and things like this. But dating apps, there's an awful lot of people that are single at the minute. I have been on dates with different people. I've dated a couple of times just shortly before.
81:45
And people have said, why are you still saying that? And it's because I just I won't tolerate it. And when I when when I heard you saying about this girl, honestly, to get out as early as she did, I just thought that was tremendous. Because when you're in it, you don't realise. So, for example, I dated a guy for a short while when we would go out for meals.
82:06
it would take at least 20 minutes for us to be seated because he would have to, he would walk in, he would assess the room and then he would like obviously see some attractive woman or like he was a very handsome guy. But when we would sit down, if that seat didn't suit him and he couldn't see what he needed to see or, you know, we would have to move.
82:23
What did he need to see?
82:26
Other women.
82:29
What a weirdo.
82:31
No, honestly, Neil, it was terrible.
82:33
It was absolutely awful. He would survey the room first for the best play or was it a case he'd sit down and move and sit down and move?
82:43
Yeah. So it kind of started off slowly and it was a case of we would go into a bar or a restaurant and this is like right from the start, but he wouldn't be comfortable if I sat down and say his back was to the room.
82:55
I didn't see it initially, but he'd be really uncomfortable and he'd make up excuses and he felt a bit cold or whatever. So we'd swap seats.
83:02
And then it got to the point where after several dates I was kind of feeling a little bit anxious going into pubs or restaurants and stuff. So I would walk in behind him so he could choose. Or if we were like outside a bar and you kind of, you could see he was kind of zoning in on somebody or like a beautiful woman or whatever like that. That probably sounds like I'm jealous. No, I'm not.
83:24
No, no, no. I understand that. I understand that.
83:27
Yeah, you could feel it. Or you'd be talking to him and he just wouldn't be listening because he was obviously whatever looking around the room. But he...
83:36
He kind of had obviously seen this girl and you could see them look at each other absolutely grand. Everybody looks. And then obviously other people kind of came in and sat down but they were blocking him so he had to move. But he got really kind of, he'd get really on edge so he'd have to move. You're joking me. The final straw was in a really gorgeous restaurant and we were sitting at a table. It was a really beautiful, gorgeous view and a girl came in and sat down but she sat in behind him And so obviously he was kind of watching and staring.
84:08
He was kind of not really involved in the conversation, which was fine. But then when a few minutes later, he asked me, could he move? Because he was saying that he didn't like seats. So he moved again. So I moved seats. But at this point, my stomach was turning because I knew what he was doing. And then next thing, a few minutes later, he was like, no, no, no, I need to move seats. So we then had to ask the waiter, could we move tables?
84:32
And would you have ever said to him, Get a grip, man, will you?
84:35
Grow a pair. Stop. No, because when you're in it, I can't explain it. And it wasn't just that. Like, I've had guys who've commented on, you know, wear your hair down or wear your hair up or, you know, commenting on my outfit.
84:47
Men have told you that. I prefer if your hair was down.
84:51
Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah. One guy was like, I don't like your hair like that.
84:55
So I would, like, never, as everybody that knows me knows, never tell me what to do.
85:01
But unfortunately, and I would have thought, yeah, I could see the signs straight away or whatever. You don't, because they're very good at manipulation. And when a guy... you know sees a woman and he wants her then he will do whatever he can to get her but by belittling you humiliating you and kind of that constant you know hitting you down you do get to the point where you lose everything and that's then the control takes over then they'll start saying they don't like your friends they don't like your family you know your friends that you know they'll say negative stuff about your friends They'll say obviously your family are too involved or this and that.
85:38
So then you become isolated.
85:39
A hundred percent you're right when you say if he wants to control how she looks and how she wears, that's not the end of it. That's only the start of a long road downwards. Like she's listening right now and I think it would be fair to say that her confidence has been badly shook as a consequence of what he said to her regarding that dress and the other things that she let slide.
85:58
I think what it was she had said, the first part was she let a few things slide. Right. Which we all would do. You know, everyone's allowed a chance. We all make mistakes.
86:09
Then she said, obviously, at one point he was the love of my life or I thought he was, you know, I thought he was the love of my life. That's what they do. They love Pam.
86:17
And because you're just so enamoured and I'd be interested to know, you know, did she meet him on a dating app? Because generally guys, who are exceptionally controlling, will engage in conversation over a period of time so they can find out everything about you. And you literally tell them everything. So then they can use all of that to basically mirror everything that you do. And you're like, oh, my God, I've met the guy in my life. This is it. But actually, he isn't interested in any of the stuff that you've done, but you've told him everything. And then he can now mirror that. Do you know what I mean?
86:48
I do. And how did you, you obviously dumped this guy like radioactive waste. Yeah.
86:52
Yeah, I did. But it was funny. A very good friend of mine had met him briefly.
86:59
And she just afterwards, she couldn't even talk. She was just raging because she just she said just the way he was. He didn't want anybody around me. He didn't like anybody near me. He would try and keep me away.
87:12
And she was just she was just raging. I remember her saying she'd gone home to her husband. She was raging. Because she just, you know, the way he was now, I couldn't even see it at that point. But yes, you know.
87:25
And after, so did you end it?
87:28
Oh, absolutely.
87:29
And did he subsequently try and come back?
87:32
Oh, yeah. Yeah. I mean, I blocked him on all forums and I got the sob sob story and all of this. And then it was about three or four months down the line. I get this really long email because you can't block emails.
87:45
And, you know, every now and again, and that was two or three years ago, I still get the odd text or not text, email or whatever. But it's, yeah, they don't stop.
87:55
Could you not report him? I mean, you're a police officer for many years. Is that not a crime?
88:00
Yeah, the thing is, it wasn't a crime because he hadn't officially, he hadn't actually done anything. Oh, he's just a nuisance, yeah. Yeah, it is a pattern of events.
88:13
And it's a sequence of events. And what I would always say, you know, to the women are, you know, rarely a man. And if I went to a house was you have to document everything. You have to document it, try and record it, take photographs, anything, because it's a pattern built over time. And generally in domestic abuse, women will only make one phone call.
88:37
And if the officer who turns up doesn't see what she's trying to say, doesn't listen to her, then that moment is gone. She won't ring again.
88:46
Yeah, because she's saying... No, it is. And you kind of look at... What's the point? No, and I mean, kind of going on then for an extreme situation like the Gabby Petito incident with the police when she was stopped in her car and she was bawling, crying and she was shaking. Like when police go to a house... Generally, with the domestic incident, the man will be calm and the woman will be hysterical. And she's referred to as the crazy one.
89:15
You need to be trained to pick up on that. I know what you're saying.
89:17
Yeah. I mean, you don't even need to be trained, really. But generally, like she said, obviously, she'd asked this girl, obviously, I said in her email, she asked him, did he say to his friends why he broke up with her? He won't say anything. He'll have said she was crazy.
89:32
And what would you say to her? Because she's listening now, just finally.
89:36
I just think, my goodness, after four months, I have to say hats off to her for recognising what he was doing, even if she didn't really recognise it. But the whole kind of even leaving her in the pub on her own, that humiliation that he would have done an embarrassment. that I'm just so glad that she did what she did and she shouldn't be embarrassed about telling her family and friends because actually, as a rule, when people are going through something like this, they will only speak to family and friends.
90:04
So kind of what you're doing here... You think that she should tell family and friends the story? Absolutely. Okay.
90:10
Yeah, absolutely. Because it's good for... And that's what I was just going to say. People will generally speak to and confide to family and friends only. They won't go to the police first.
90:20
Okay.
90:21
But then if family and friends are also aware of the signs, they can then help. But when it's gotten too far, the victim gets isolated. So for her to be able to walk away at four months, he won't stop. I guarantee you now he will try and come back or he may have a new victim that he's going to be working on. But just like for her sharing her story, I think is amazing because coercive and controlling behaviour in relation to domestic abuse is huge at the moment. So, yeah, no, I'm delighted she was able to stand her ground and the fact that she still wore her dress.
90:55
I actually, I smiled at that because I thought that's exactly what I would do. Well done.
90:59
Well done.
91:00
Okay. To be brave enough to walk away is tremendous.
91:03
Thanks, Jenny. I appreciate it. Thanks for listening. Stay in touch. Text 0868104106. You've got to watch, Emer says you've got to watch My Lover, My Killer on Netflix. It's a series of documentaries about girls who've been coercively controlled and the late Jennifer Poole from Fingless features in one of those documentaries called My Lover, My Killer on Netflix.
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The Neil Brenderville Show. on Red FM. Conversation that matters.
91:29
Be part of the conversation, the Neil Prendival show with Elevate Credit Union. I know, you know, with the weather and everything, everybody loves to be outdoors and enjoying themselves and getting a bit of sun and it's been fabulous for the last few weeks. Long may it continue. It's going to be a summer that we'll remember. But at the same time, I went to the to the cinema, to the movies, to a film on Monday afternoon down to the Omniplex. It's the Odyssey. Now, if you've been to it, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's almost three hours long, but I wouldn't let that deter you because it flies by. And we were way overdue a major blockbuster.
92:01
We really were. There was a blockbuster needed and we got it with the Odyssey. Homer's The Odyssey. Matt Damon is in it. Anne Hathaway is in it. And it's absolutely cracking. You will love it.
92:14
And it's going to break all box office records. It's just an incredible film. And it's right up there with the great big blockbusters of the past, which is fantastic. Well done to Christopher Nolan. Of course, he's done those kind of things before with Oppenheimer. But this is a different film, obviously. from Homer's Odyssey and the Iliad and, you know, the big Trojan horse and all stuff like that. It's a fine, fine film. Well worth going to see. I don't know if you're one of these people, just on a lighter note, because there's enough stuff to be, you know, getting the emotions going and the blood boil these days.
92:47
But you go to the cinema, would you go and go to the concession stand, which is fine? Would you get the popcorn? Would you get the big drinks? Would you get the Coca-Cola? Would you get shovel the sweets into the little cups and what have you?
92:59
down in omniplex i met the loveliest guy whose name i can't remember now god damn it i wish i could but he was the guy he's the guy working in the cafe there just across from the cinema lovely guy one of these fellows who just loves to chat loves radio and loves cork and all things cork and i had a great chat with them i was going in but what i do not that anybody cares what i do is i would get it i get sandwiches in the long valley before i go to the cinema and Like, it's not as if I get hillbillies now or anything like that and go in there and chomping chips and maybe ringing in a fish supper or anything.
93:31
But I, yesterday, or the day on Monday, went into the Long Valley and I got, I mean, the sandwiches are just mind-blowing. They're so consistently great. And I just go for the same one all the time. I get the corned beef salad on white. My wife has the chicken salad on brown. And they're big monster doorsteps. And I go into the film and I sit down. I'd have an old, bottle of diet Pepsi or whatever the case may be, and I chomp away on the sandwich. And it's just a great, you know, it'll make a good film brilliant and a bad film better. So I'm wondering if you have any kind of other, you know, must-dos when you go to the cinema and what it is, get involved, text 0868104106.
94:10
And it's warm in there, incidentally. I'm not quite sure they've discovered air conditioning in there, but it's just because of the weather we're having at the moment. Anyway, I just passed it on because maybe you have your own quirky story to share. Text 0868104106. Yeah.
94:28
Sandwiches are fine, Cezima, as long as you're not bringing in an egg salad Sambo to the cinema. Yeah. Or what? Maybe tuna? Maybe no? Maybe that would be okay. No, I wouldn't bring hot food in. No, they're just... They're wrecking my head now, lads, just because I decided to bring a sandwich in. No, I wouldn't bring in... I mean...
94:48
I wouldn't mind if I went over to Hillbillies and got a couple of snack boxes and brought them into the cinema. But I do be thinking about the other customers at the same time. She says, I bet they love to see you come. Nobody knows. Nobody pays any attention to anybody else. They're there to watch their own film. I mean, what would be, hang on a second, if you want to jump on, what would be worse, right? Me chomping away on my quiet silent sandwich or I'm next to somebody with a big jumbo bag of crisps. Come on.
95:15
Well, like, do you buy anything down there?
95:17
Yeah, I bought a flat white and a mint tea. All right. Brought that in as well. I bought my tickets.
95:24
They see you coming. I'm not obliged. Like, yeah, I'd have no problem because it is expensive, especially when you have kids. You could be looking at 70, 80 quid when you're buying them. Oh, no, it's not.
95:34
It's not about that. Listen, I'm a great man to trend the money over the counter, not a bother. But I just think it's a great thing. Just get a Long Valley sandwich and go to the cinema. That's very cute, actually.
95:43
It's nice, isn't it? It is. Depending on how close to payday it is, the kids either get the popcorn from home in the Chinese boxes.
95:50
Well, the sandwich in the Long Valley, a moment of correction, is €8.90. And to be honest with you, there's eating for two of them. They're absolutely iconic.
95:58
Chicken and egg salad is the one I go for.
96:00
Not at the cinema. People wouldn't be happy with the egg, I'd say.
96:03
That's a very cute tradition, though, isn't it? I wonder, do others do that? Yeah.
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Let's find out. Text 0868-104-106. Do you mind if I talk to Yvonne? OK, because I want to get back to this is quite a serious matter, but I think it's fair to say that the emailer, let me call her Mary because she doesn't want me to give out her real name or details. I've seen the actual dress itself. But anyway, Yvonne, good morning.
96:22
Well, how are you? So you had a very interesting story, which I actually saw on Instagram. Fair play to you. Just talk us through.
96:30
Okay, there's a lacy silky shorts. They're sort of on trend at the minute.
96:35
Lacy shorts.
96:36
Lacy silky shorts. So they're borderline where they look like maybe underwear or nightwear. or shorts, but they're a trend. And I said, for the fun, I would try them on. And I said in the reel that I was doing it for the fun, I probably wouldn't go for them myself. Tried them on, did the reel, and I upset a few people along the way. And some people were very traumatised by the fact that at 55, I was wearing a pair of silky shorts. And then some of the, you know, there was a lot of positive, don't get me wrong, but there was quite a few negatives.
97:05
Okay, so I'll take the positive in a moment. Give me an example of the negative.
97:10
Yeah, so mutton dressed as lamb, legs were veiny and blotchy, which I say on live, they are not. And you wouldn't want to be easily offended.
97:21
Act my age, dress my age, cop on. And then mutton dressed as lamb badly, which is obviously far worse than just being mutton dressed as lamb.
97:30
It's mutton dressed as lamb with bells on, like.
97:32
Exactly.
97:33
Because you're wearing a pair of lace shorts, not that it's anybody else's business.
97:37
No. I mean, with all the stuff that's going on in the world right now, I think me wearing a pair of shorts is really not up there among the news or the items. I wouldn't have thought so. You know.
97:46
What do you make of these people that just seem to relish in saying nasty things?
97:51
They do. They do. I don't know. I think, yes, I think there's probably stuff going on in their background that's affecting their behaviour maybe, but I... I do think it's generational, maybe like I think mutton dresses lamb, for example, is a that's a saying that was bandied about two years ago. I don't think youngsters would even be aware of that saying. And I know from the comments I get, if they are negative, they do tend to come from a certain age group, my own and older and younger. you know, the after age.
98:23
Yeah, I just think they're very set in what we should be doing.
98:26
Do you engage with them, I'm wondering, Yvonne, or did you?
98:29
No, I try not to. I do sometimes because I do feel sometimes you just have to call it out. I try and ignore as best I can because a lot of the time they're nearly only looking for a reaction and they will feed off it. Yeah.
98:42
But you know, in your case now, and I'm going to call her Mary, this is the girl who wore a beautiful cocktail dress and your man said she looked like a hooker and he's an angry, nasty, coercive man. She's better off without him. Did it shake your confidence, though? Because, you know, sometimes your clothes can be your armour. Absolutely. Putting on your weaponry to show your best you. Yes.
99:05
Yeah. And there's a general sort of conception out there from remarks that you get that you put yourself out there, you have to accept the comments. And I really, really agree against that because I thought for years before I put myself out there on Instagram and I would still be very awkward at times. And, you know, I'm not always in my comfort zone. So if you have people telling you that you're mutton dressed as llama, you look ridiculous. I mean, I'm only human. I'm like, I lock it as much as I can, but part of it will just sit on you and you start to doubt yourself and you know no it's just because I put myself out there that doesn't mean you have a right to be rude that's not appropriate at any time
99:45
You know, I suppose, pick up on this for me because you know more about this than I would, but I would think it would be fair to say that years and years ago, years ago, there was a kind of a code that people followed where they did dress appropriately and they did dress what was deemed by society to be appropriately. As they got older, their dress sent changed. That's no longer either accepted nor a requirement. Sure is not.
100:10
No, absolutely not. Like, absolutely not. I know what I feel is appropriate for me to wear. And when I say appropriate, I don't mean, I mean what I'm comfortable wearing. And if I am comfortable wearing something, I think I'm a good enough judge of my own character to know that that's okay on me.
100:27
And I don't think anybody else has a right to tell me that I'm being ridiculous or inappropriate because we are all our own harshest critics, I feel. So I'm not going to put myself out there in something that I deem doesn't suit me. So I don't need anybody else to tell me and to get rude. These are strangers. You're not going to go up to a stranger, I would hope, and say that to somebody in the street. So why do they think they can do it online?
100:50
Because they can hide online.
100:52
Yeah, yeah.
100:52
That's the reason why. They get that sort of, they're in their comfort zone. They feel as if they're protected, you know, and that's the thing. So you want to turn that negative into a positive. How come? I do.
101:07
Well, when all this fact was going on, again, like I said, I got lots of lovely, lovely positive comments because I have a gorgeous bunch of followers that are so, so good to me. And one local lady just private messaged me and said we should all wear the damn shorts and go dancing on the boardwalk and of course it just kind of got into my head and the brain was going and I kind of thought and thought and I love dancing anyway it doesn't give me much I hear tell you're a dab hand to the dancing queen to tell me that might be true
101:37
It is true.
101:39
Oh, God, yeah, look, I'll hold my hand up for that one. So I love the Dancing Queen routine in the Mamma Mia movie. I'm always going, God, that sound looks like great crack. So that's what I'm doing. I am doing on Saturday, the 29th of August at 7pm in our local town park on the running track, just to keep it safe and off the road and everything. And we're going to have a couple of choreographers... from town, Becky and Catherine. No, I'm telling you, this is going to be good.
102:05
It works for town, lads, if anybody wants. No, I completely... You strike me as the kind of woman if she says she's going to do something, she is.
102:13
So, Lucas, so yeah, and we're going to do the routine and we're going to film it, but what I want to do is I've linked it to women's aid because the bottom line, the core thing of it is women should support women.
102:27
And women need to empower other women. So I just thought Women's Aid, I couldn't ask for a better charity that supports women. So I wanted to link it. No use just us dancing around the park. It had to be a little bit more special than that. And it has to have a little bit more depth than that. And that's why I wanted to link Women's Aid. It's a great idea. So wear the damn shorts.
102:46
We'll raise money for Women's Aid.
102:49
That's it.
102:51
And when is that, if anybody wants to travel to the park? Saturday, the 29th of August.
102:54
People can get further details on your Insta, can't they? Stride to style. They will, of course, yes. And do you think that it was a woman who called you out as mutton dressed as lamb?
103:03
Oh, absolutely, because this particular woman had her profile up and she was a celebrant, no less.
103:08
Oh my God, not even hiding those kind of nasty comments.
103:11
No, no. My God. No, no. And you see, I think this leads back to the guy, not necessarily, but like if kids are used to listening to their parents speaking negatively, and judgmentally about other people. Kids are sponges and that's so clean and that becomes the norm. And I think we just have to be far more mindful to show our kids respect and kindness at all times.
103:35
There is a generation coming up now and they're already amongst us in their 20s and 30s because I've experienced of it. And they're very intolerant of any of that kind of nonsense. They are much better now than we were when we were their age. I have to be honest. Very much so. And that's a great thing. You know, they don't tolerate that. You're always going to get numpties and idiots and nasty people. And as you say, they're probably of the older generation anyway, because that's what they learned, you know.
104:02
Yeah, well, and that's just my experience of it, you know, the bit that I've got. It's my experience.
104:06
Okay, okay. Well, then you get on with it and wear the damn shorts.
104:10
I will.
104:11
All right, Yvonne, mind yourself. Thank you very much. All the best. Take care. You can follow Yvonne on her Instagram. Maybe you want to wear the damn shorts and get down there and do a bit of the Dancing Queen yourself. Follow her on Stride to Style on Insta. Text 0868 104 106. Pick up the phone on 0818 104 106. More on this and lots more besides after the break.
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On Red FM. Conversation that matters.
104:37
You're part of the conversation. Text 0868 104 106 on rates of pay and the jobs that Irish people, it was suggested, don't want to do. Well, I suppose you'll strive to get the best paying job because you want the best life, don't you? I'm listening and gobsmacked to think that those doing the stop go signs for 16 euro an hour is deemed as low. To think those doing healthcare work in many cases are being paid just above minimum wage. Those in nursing homes with qualifications on 17 to 19 euro per hour. It's no wonder there's such a shortage of people to take up work in this area.
105:10
Yeah, and that is a typical example of why people, to a large extent... won't do that work, won't go through the process of learning or going to college for it. Or indeed, if they do, and many college educated, they leave the country.
105:24
And I knew, actually, that it would be very difficult to get a parent to say as to whether they have a favourite child or not. But grandparents, particularly if there's a lot of grandchildren... Well, I would think that maybe if there are lots of grandchildren, it would only be natural when there's a lot of them not to have a particular favourite, just one that you might click with more personality-wide or whatever. My daughter's grandfather clearly plays favourites with his grandchildren. When one of his sons stopped paying the mortgage, he stepped in and covered the payments to make sure those grandchildren had a roof over their heads.
105:57
But when his other son did exactly the same thing to his family, he sat back and did nothing as a grandfather. The difference in how he treated the two families has caused a lot of hurt.
106:08
An example of parental favouritism, whether it was a male grandson or a female granddaughter. I have two girls now.
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Hazel, Sasha and a son, Jamie. The eldest, Sasha, is 35. Hazel is 42. Jamie is 44. I call Hazel the golden child just to annoy Jamie. I call him the prodigal son. Hazel got me a mug saying golden child, says Frick.
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It must be a wonderful thing to see them grow up the next generation. Keep them coming. Text 0868 104 106. Even to work in the stop and go sign, you need a safe pass. The safe pass is a one day course that costs 100 euro. There are a few private companies offering these courses, some even in foreign languages. And the chances are that there's an NGO somewhere funding the courses for foreign workers. I know, having worked in both employment activation and construction recruitment, that the social welfare also offer these courses to recipients paid for. It would be hard to follow the gravy train on this.
107:12
It wouldn't be hard for you to follow the gravy train on this. What, with regards to help and intervention to get a job and a safe pass? I think that in the case of... Certainly, I would have thought, from the point of view of construction, you would need to be able to speak English just from a safety point of view. Anyway, keep them coming. Text 0868-104-106. Is it Hania?
107:33
Yeah.
107:33
I just want to make sure I'm pronouncing it right. Did you get robbed?
107:39
Oh, yes, I did. What was it that they robbed?
107:43
My pink tie. No, it's not a great line, Hania. Your pink what? Yes.
107:47
Chairs. Chairs?
107:50
Yeah, my two pink chairs in front of my house. Well, they were matching my pink pots.
107:56
You like pink, do you? Oh, I love pink, yeah.
108:01
Maybe they were doing you a favour robbing pink chairs and pink pots. But anyway, on a serious note, describe the chairs.
108:08
Well, they were big pots, like the big plastic chairs. Very comfortable to sit in. But they were pink. That was the main thing.
108:17
I actually was driving past Hanley's. I was in there actually yesterday, the garden centre on the Kinsale Road. They have two of those pink chairs. They're like big kind of plastic, almost garden armchair-y things, aren't they?
108:29
Oh, yes. Because in London, I couldn't find them.
108:32
Well, they have them. They have them. They're for sale there and they're pink.
108:37
Oh, wonderful news. That's what I'm going to do, my direction there today.
108:41
Okay, so tell me about when they disappeared, where and when.
108:47
Between the Tuesday and Thursday last week.
108:50
And you've got it up online now, missing. My two lovely pink chairs went missing. They didn't grow legs and walk off themselves.
108:58
No, I need to check my cameras and I don't do it yet. I'm going to do it tomorrow.
109:05
That's kind of the first thing you would do, Hania, is check your cameras.
109:09
No, I want to give the chance to somebody to give them back after I posted that.
109:15
Before I check my cameras.
109:18
I'm really hoping they will come back.
109:21
Annie, it's just, you can't leave anything out now. Are you in a housing estate or are you rural? In a housing estate, yeah. Okay. Okay, so somebody clearly needed a van or an SUV with a big boot to put the loot in the boot.
109:35
Oh, yeah, and remove them from there, yeah.
109:39
So where did you get them and how much were they?
109:42
Oh, they were 20 euros or 30 euros each. And I got them two years ago.
109:46
Is that all?
109:49
They were just decoration there. Is that all they cost? I mean, how can anybody make them and get a profit out of 20 euros? They're massive things.
109:58
Yeah, they are. And they're very comfy.
110:00
Okay, so in the past, I've been asked to try and find engagement rings, wedding rings, passports, items of jewellery, wallets that have been lost. This is a new one on me. Two lovely pink chairs.
110:14
Yeah.
110:15
A pink chair was missing.
110:17
So, how long are you giving them to bring them back?
110:22
Well, like I'd say until Sunday, as I will go to the cameras.
110:31
And was the camera trained on the two pink garden chairs?
110:35
Well, I have a camera in front of my house, so I will definitely see it on my driveway.
110:42
Okay, so it would pick up whoever robbed them.
110:45
Yeah.
110:46
If you can get your hands on a drone, right? You know, a drone.
110:50
Yeah.
110:52
And you throw the drone up in the air, you could go by drone into all of your neighbours' back gardens to have a little look.
111:02
Oh dear, I could.
111:07
But I don't want to do that. Because you figure you have lovely neighbours, I suppose.
111:12
Well, I like my neighbours a lot.
111:14
I can't wait until Sunday to see if they return or whether you look at this. I'm amazed that you haven't been tempted to look at the cameras.
111:24
I will check where I was. I see somebody walking out. I will send you the recording.
111:29
They're not going to walk away with the two of those.
111:32
People are very brazen, aren't they? They really and truly are. They'd rob the eye out of your head.
111:38
Yeah.
111:39
Anyway, if they don't come back, Hanley's is selling them. Don't know how much they are, but they're outside the front of the garden centre. Go check them out.
111:47
Wonderful. That's great news. I think I'm going to get them.
111:51
So when will I hear back from you as to whether the two pink garden chairs are returned?
111:56
Someday.
111:57
You let me know on Monday morning. I can't wait to find out.
112:00
Yeah.
112:01
Yeah, Monday morning. Okay. Okay. Fingers crossed. Let's see what happens. Thanks.
112:06
People would rob anything. In the recent past, it was ashtrays, glasses, charity boxes, umbrellas, flower pots, toilet paper, the loo toilet paper robber down in the toilets in y'all. You recall that? And now pink garden chairs. Interestingly, it's interesting to catch up on things. But you remember talking to Sean Ryan yesterday on the air. Sean's a young man. who left Ireland when he was about two or three years old. I guess his family all moved to Canada and he's in Alberta. He keeps coming back every year. There is not a scintilla of a Canadian accent.
112:36
He's never lost his cork accent. So he was fishing yesterday. We did a good chat yesterday. He was fishing for mackerel yesterday off the pier in England. Y'all. And I asked him to come back to me as to whether he caught any mackerel. He came back this morning and says, Hi Neil! It's Sean Ryan from yesterday. We had no mackerel, but we caught three bass.
112:55
Oh my God. I'm assuming now you could keep the bass, take them home and pan-fried them, get them nice and crispy and thoroughly enjoy them. They're not mackerel, but they're absolutely delicious. So a bit of a haul fee yesterday, Sean. At least you caught something which is great. Text 0868 104 106. Maybe other examples of things that have been robbed. I mean, that's right up there. You know, they're the enormous big plastic armchair things that you have in the back garden for sunning yourself. Big, huge things. Somebody literally driving by decides, oh, I'll have those.
113:25
Thank you very much. Speaking of, oh, I'll have those, my two Long Valley sandwiches at the Odyssey film at the Omniplex on Monday afternoon. You stink at the film with your sandwich. It sounds awful. If I was sitting near you, I would have complained, says Orla. And what would you be complaining about? A silent sandwich that was doing no harm to anybody? I eat with my mouth shut. It wasn't a big bag of crunchy crisps. I wasn't constantly all through the film trying to unwrap the wrappers off sweets.
113:58
Come on.
114:01
Stephen says, The Odyssey is one big pile of stinking feces, a load of virtue signalling nonsense. Wake up, you brainwashed, indoctrinated moron. What?
114:14
On what basis am I a brainwashed, indoctrinated moron because I enjoyed a blockbuster of a film on Monday afternoon? What is it with people?
114:24
I know why he's saying that because Helena Troy is black and should be white. I bet you that's why.
114:28
Maybe so. You're not a moron though.
114:31
Well, I certainly won't be dictated to by you.
114:35
What have I done now?
114:36
Telling me that I'm stinking out the cinema with my sound. I'm being lectured by somebody who irons her clothes while she's wearing them and then gets third degree burns on her abdomen as a consequence.
114:52
Are you serious? Oh my God, there's nothing sacred. That was a private conversation we were having in the office.
114:58
The minute you start criticising by Sambo eating in the cinema, I have to push back.
115:03
Oh, my God. I'm actually a Gomi. I swear to God. I'm mortified. Hang on a second.
115:10
Hang on a second.
115:12
Hang on a second. I've got to do something. Talking about Gomi's. Do tell the story, but wait a second.
115:31
I'm the new friend of the radio show. Go.
115:43
Go on.
115:45
What happened?
115:47
Oh, so I was ironing a top this morning on the ironing board with the iron and I turned it off, turned the iron off, put the top on, looked in the mirror and saw there was still a crease in it. So I went over to the iron that I thought I had plugged out and thinking it was just going to be mildly kind of warm.
116:04
Yeah, you thought it would automatically just go stone cold the minute you plug it out. Yeah.
116:08
Yeah, exactly. But I hadn't plugged it out and I put it on my body. And this is something I've done a lot over the years. Like I've ironed clothes on myself, but never, ever have I done anything stupid like this. And it got stuck to my stomach. And I now have an iron mark on my stomach, like entire, like full, the dots, the triangle of the iron on my stomach. Yeah, what a Gomi.
116:32
And then we had to, well, we didn't do it. We had to put cooling gel on it.
116:38
Yeah, so Dr. Seamus Medicine Man.
116:40
So tomorrow that's going to be more painful than today and tonight.
116:43
It's actually really, really painful now. But I went out to the Gomi moments, then went out for some sympathy, was chatting to Casey outside and he said, there's a feature in that.
116:55
And maybe he's right. He feels that we should do a go me moment every week and get people to tell us.
117:00
Who irons clothes on themselves? I do.
117:03
And I have done for years.
117:07
What? Like if I'm in a rush or, you know, now today now had ironed the top. And then, as I say, afterwards I went. But like I would do, usually I'd pull the top or skirt or whatever out. Not all the time. It's only if I'm in a rush or there's one crease left. I'll then iron it on myself. But like not towards my skin, I usually pull it out. But this top is the same controversial top that we spoke about a couple of weeks ago when Zara wouldn't take it back because it was too big. Do you remember?
117:34
It's cursed.
117:35
It's cursed. But it might be the material.
117:37
Brenda Dennehy, don't tell me that you iron clothes on you.
117:40
Do you know what, Neil? I'm a big gommie as well because when I came up the stairs earlier, she was telling me, I goes, do you know what? No, you should have put the hair straightener on it. And I was all enthusiastic. That's what I was telling her to do.
117:49
Hair straighteners for your hair.
117:51
For your hair to iron your clothes. My friend did it to my shirt last week and it turned out grand.
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You know something? I'm actually quite insulted because I bought you a clothes steamer about three weeks ago. Are you not using it?
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I am, but I didn't bring it to the Aron Islands with me. This is in the Aron Islands. Like, I like it, but I don't like it that much. We bring in it cross-country-like.
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That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
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I know I feel like an eejit but a lot of people do there's lots of different ways like back in the day we used to iron our hair with the hair with the straighteners the actual with the iron you know what pre hair straighteners we used to iron how you just put your hair on the ironing board and maybe put a towel over it and iron to straighten your hair that was pre straighteners back in the back in the day yeah but like an awful lot of people would do different things like you know you hang your if you hang your top in the shower while you're having a shower that'll all the
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But would you recommend to your daughter or your son to do what you did?
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No, I'm a Gomi. She's blistering here, Neil. Like, it looks fairly sore. I can see the triangle at the top of the iron mark on her.
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I think that, I mean, if we're looking for people's Gomi moments, like, I do know of somebody who once tried to dry out stinking runners in a microwave and they went on fire. Oh, my. But you're in a different league. Ironing yourself with a red-hot iron, even if it was plugged out, it stays hot for a long, long time.
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It does, but I'm not the only person who does that.
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Let's find out if other people have other crazy, gomy moments. Text 0868104106. There are prizes in this, lads. Prizes for this. Not just family passes for tourist attractions, but I'm quite sure for the very worst one, or the craziest one, or the best admission. Maybe a spot of lunch or dinner. Yeah. I'm going to buy... Homestore and More are selling clothes steamers for £22.99.
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Yeah, but then I'd get steam marks.
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You don't, you don't, you do it on a hanger.
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Like normal people.
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I know, I'm not normal though. That's fact. We know that.
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If she calls in sick now tomorrow, Neil, you know what's wrong. It's a go-me. Yeah, up and the knee with it.
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But it could be anything. We want people's go-me with stupid things you did where you went, how did I actually do that?
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Yeah.
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Text 0868-104-106. Email neil at redfm.ie. Can anybody bait that stupidity?
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The Neil Prendival Show on Red FM. Conversation that matters.
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I'm still back at Orla. You stink out the film with your corned beef salad on white from the Long Valley. Sounds awful. If I was sitting near you, I would complain.
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When you consider the things that people eat in cinemas, like I think mine is not anywhere up around there. Anyway, keep those Gomi moments coming.
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Not that I regard the sandwich as a gummy moment.
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Not for a moment.
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When were you a gummy, Shirley?
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At the moment I feel now At the moment Right now In this moment No you shouldn't actually Because don't You're not alone Because there's another Gomi across the glass here Who irons the clothing On herself Like yourself Yeah I've done I have done that Not to the extent That Eimear has now Like I haven't clung An iron onto myself But why would you Why would you even think It's a safe thing to do You know it's not safe Neil It's an intrusive thought It's an intrusive thought. And it's the mind of a lazy person.
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Or a very busy person.
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Well, maybe in Emer's case, busy. But in my case, it's laziness. I'm like, I'm not taking this off again. I'll just jam the iron on here now. And I did burn myself. And then I thought, that's not safe. Don't be doing that. So then I bought a handheld steamer.
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only to be able to burn myself in a portable fashion instead of plugged into the wall. Same thing, like, different font. Same thing, different font. I've got form for this, like, I have form for it because when I was a child, I pulled my teeth out, my bottom teeth out with an umbrella.
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Why did you have an umbrella in your mouth?
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I had an umbrella in my mouth because I was pretending I was playing the saxophone.
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And instead of, again, being patient and taking the umbrella out properly, the intrusive thoughts were like rip her teeth out of your head, which I did.
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And then, as I said to Eimear, glued my mouth shut there in the not-so-recent past.
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Oh, hang on, back up on that one. You glued your lips shut.
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Yeah, I glued my whole mouth shut, much to everybody's joy.
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Okay, talk me through that now.
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Yeah, I'll take you right through it. I was doing my nails, like fake nails, like false nails, and had an extra strong nail glue.
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The top of it, women will understand this now, the top of the glue had like sealed over. Like you know that sometimes the super glue would seal over and you have to pierce the top of it to get the glue moving again. Intrusive thought, don't go and get a pin or a scissors, just bite it with your teeth, which I did.
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And the glue just poured into my mouth and clung my mouth shut and the inside of my lips to my gums.
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A&E, straight away.
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No, no, absolutely not.
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Too embarrassed, too mortified to go to the A&E.
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Like, what am I going to say? The mouth is glued shut. So I just sat there for a while and I thought, how's this going to play out?
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And eventually, like, just kind of prized them apart and prized the inside of my mouth away from the gum and moved on with my life.
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I only remembered that while ago when you were talking about it, that came back to me because I had also glued, not in the same situation, not at the same time, but in the same situation, nail glue, glued my pajamas onto my legs.
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I think there's more to come in your life in the future, you know. There'll be more episodes like this.
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I mean, listen, I'll be wearing a helmet shortly, but we move. I'll have to have a crash helmet on.
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Was it painful, though, trying to dislodge your tongue and your gums and your lips?
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No, it was more...
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It's the mental torture more than the physical because you're saying to yourself, you knew this was going to happen. When you put that thing into your mouth, when you tried to bite the top off the cliff, you knew this was going to happen and you decided to do it anyway. You knew it was potential for disaster. Well, the intrusive thoughts get the better of you and you do it anyway. I can't wait. Look, it makes for a great story, doesn't it?
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It does, and I can't wait for the next chapter. Ironing your clothes, gluing your lips shut. What's next in the life of Shirley? We'll have to wait and see.
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Well, the whole Beamer feels a little bit better anyway.
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Well, there's strength and power in numbers of Gomes.
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Exactly.
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You know what I mean?
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Take care, Shirley. Appreciate it. Selina says, I once turned my toaster on its side to heat up a slice of pizza. I turned the toaster on its side as I didn't want the topping to fall off. Toaster went up in flames, says Selina. Again, it's a typical response is, what else did you expect to happen when you do something like that? Regina, good morning.
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Good morning, Neil. OK, so feel no shame, people. Feel no embarrassment. Do share because it can get worse than ironing clothes with a hot iron while you're wearing them. So go ahead.
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Oh, yes, it can get worse. I was looking at Facebook there about a week ago and I saw this thing about rough skin on your heel that a cheese grater.
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Rough skin on your heel.
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That's right. And if you've got a cheese grater and scrape it off with a cheese grater, it's the smoothness of the skin. So I headed off into Home Store and Moor on Sunday, got my cheese grater, so I put it up into the bathroom and I said, no, that'll do, because I was going to Killarney yesterday.
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A metal cheese grater.
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a metal cheese grater. So when I got up and I said I'd do my heels now before I wouldn't have my shower, put my foot over the toilet bowl and started scraping my heel. It was a bit rough at the start, but then the next time I did it, I took the skin completely off the side of my leg. There was blood pouring into the toilet and I said, oh my Jesus, I'm heading out for the day and what a foot I'm going to have for the day. So that was... That was my thing though, with a cheese grater.
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So I won't be using that again.
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You might as well take a blowtorch to it or a hatchet or a saw.
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But come here, aren't you supposed to use an Emery board or something for that, no?
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I didn't have one. If I had one, I would have used it. But I thought, seeing it on Facebook, I thought, oh my God, this is going to be great now. But I didn't realise that I was going to take the skin and the whole lot off my foot. So I have a pretty sore foot today, and I'll be honest.
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Hop along Cassidy for a while, I think.
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All right, that's right up there.
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Thanks, Regina. Appreciate it. Text 0868 104 106. Just hold on there. Back after the break.
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conversation that matters.
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Be part of the conversation. Pick up the phone. Text 0868 104 106. We'll open the phone lines as well in a second now for our Dursey cable car. Summer passes to give away. Although I think we should pick one of the Gomi moments contributors this morning. The confessions of people's Gomi moments. Give them a prize because some of these stories are absolutely mad. Even the ones we don't get to today. We'll jump back on and do them again tomorrow. But back we go. Squeeze one more in now and just see if we can get a bit of a story. Stand by for this one.
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All right, Bernice, share with us. You like the odd fag? Are you still smoking or have you given him up since?
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Oh, now I know.
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Now I know who I have. Bernice, we've tried so hard to get you to quit the Smokey Joes.
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So much so that there was a time when you had a cigarette on an airplane. Oh, you were in the toilet in the airplane.
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What did you think? I mean, did the smoke alarm go off? And when you're in there, do you hear the smoke alarm or is it you don't hear it going off now?
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I don't hear it going off, but then me, after that, I was teaching them with my children and Brendan, and I'd be smoking up in the bedroom, and the alarm was going off, and my son was up and saying to me, he's an electrician, if you're having smoke in the bedroom, put the shower on and the steam, wouldn't interfere with the door. People have done that, but I lay in the bed having to put in this bag, next one in the bed down the door, I think we can follow that The sprinklers didn't go off, no?
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Pardon? The sprinkler didn't go off in the hotel bedroom, no?
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It did, but I didn't hear it.
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No, the sprinkler, you'd know if, because you'd be soaked wet.
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But you see, I don't, absolutely, he's on the, went to the show, ran the show on Tinder with the Steve.
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What happened on the plane, though, when you were smoking in the toilet? Did they say... Tut, tut, tut. No, it says you get a fine. Did you get a fine?
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We didn't. We didn't. We were lucky. We were lucky.
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They keep a close eye on you when you go out and about, whether it's hotel bedrooms and heading overseas on holidays. Anyway, just one fast one. Dermot?
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Yes, thank you. I'll kind of give you almost some forgiveness because you were a child, but what was it?
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I was a child I was a grown man Oh I thought it said I put my finger on the fuse board When I was a boy But it's not You're a grown man Grown man You know the old fuse boxes The old ones that you The top would fall off And if they'd go You'd have to unscrew them Oh I do Yeah Yeah I put my finger into this And blew me across the room Where to God What a bang stupid thing I ever did in my life why did you want to what were you trying to find out that you stuck your finger into it the top of the thing was still inside you know the bit that falls off the fuse whereas I should have put in a pencil or something like that to pull it out I put my finger in instead did it blow you right across the room well it didn't blow me across the room but it blew me off the stool and believe me I won't go near one of them again I don't even change a plug now
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Who does all of that?
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The wife. I don't do it. I wouldn't go near it.
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So it's okay if the wife gets electrocuted then as long as it's not you.
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I tell you, I never got such a fight in all my life.
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Keep them coming, lads. Thank you, Bernice. Thank you, Dermot. Go me moments. Text 0868104106. We'll share more of those tomorrow, hopefully. Lines will stay open. Text 0868104106. Pick up the phone on 0818104106. We've got Regina and her wonderful cheese grater story this morning. Got a wonderful pass for you to take yourself off with the family, whoever you choose to take with you, to Dursey Cable Car.
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Wonderful, wonderful trip over to Darcy Island. So pick up the phone on those ones as well. 0818104106. Keir Evans is back from midday. Chance to win €100 with HB Ice Cream. Have a good day.
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See you tomorrow.
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